Ok this is gonna be long.
DH and I are approaching our ten year wedding anniversary this summer, two DDs (4 and 6) and live in our jointly owned house. Things haven't been good for a while.
My mum has been dealing with breast cancer and it's been very stressful and difficult emotionally and it's like the scales have fallen off my eyes that he's just not emotionally supportive or available in any way.
We basically live separately under the same roof. Barely any interaction, no hugs, kisses or any contact unless it's sex. We row a lot and have very different parenting styles.
It came to blows last month when he called me useless over something minor and the words "I'm leaving you" flew out of my mouth. He's acting like I never said it and just ploughing on as normal. He is not a good communicator and avoids any kind of discussion if it doesn't go his way.
He's now talking about summer holiday plans and I feel completely trapped and forced to keep having the same awkward conversation over and over. Is this what happens when you say you want out - they just ignore until you give in?
He isn't a bad person, he shares housework and childcare well and finances etc. It's just that fundamentally we aren't well matched and the snappiness and arguments make for a toxic atmosphere in the house. My family think this isn't enough of a reason to pull the plug.
I don't think I'm in love with him anymore. Would appreciate practical advice from anyone who's been able to get out and start over. Thank you.