Should I leave?

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My partner had a difficult argument with his ex/ children’s mum and I was there to support him that evening a lot

often his coping mechanism would be to get down the pub to unwind and destress

but we spoke through it and got out to get fresh air

anywho, the next night he goes to the pub with a friend. Still clearly upset about their argument the day before

he stays out drinking until the early hours with no contact to me, I’m worried, the next day I don’t hear from him until 12pm when he chooses to turns out he’s still drinking!

and then goes out again the next night for another night of drinking but this time I’ve met up with him as it’s a Friday night

and then after Thursday and Friday night, he sleeps all day Saturday but he goes out the Saturday too!!

I wouldn’t want to be with someone who deals with their problems by going on a three day bender. That road leads nowhere good.

Thank you, I agree it’s a terrible way to deal with emotions. Would you say once is enough?

You set your own boundaries. You can leave for whatever reason you want if you’re not happy. If this is a big enough red flag, then you’re under no obligation to tolerate it. People rarely change.

Definitely , once is more than enough OP. Get rid asap you don't need someone like this in your life.

I would leave.
Men that go on days long benders are not for me. It’s repulsive for grown ass adults.

He's using an argument with his ex as an excuse to go on a bender. He will shortly be using arguments with you as an excuse. Then it will be because he's had a hard day. Then it will be because it's Wednesday.

How long has he been split up from his ex?

Is his drinking part of why they split up?

Why does she still have this effect on him if he asking ?
You deserve better what a way to live