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Am I being stupid??

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UnicornDaisy86 · 25/02/2025 16:32

So my partner had an affair some time ago and it was hard. Not long after discovering I found out this woman was pregnant but she was also sleeping with someone else but via a DNA he found out he wasn’t the father and was told she used a sperm Doner. I always had this gut feeling it’s my partners child but when questioned he denied it saying it was nothing to do with him. I haven’t helped myself as I decided to look at photos of this child and I feel like I can see resemblance but I don’t know whether that’s something I’m choosing to see… it’s been many years now so how I can bring up something that’s in one way is irrelevant as he believes it’s all in the past but yet stuck with me daily… it’s not like she’s ever reached out not that I know of anyway…

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IUnderstandTheWeird · 25/02/2025 16:35

You obviously can’t trust him and it’s making you miserable. Is this how you want to spend the rest of your life? Is couples therapy worth a try to see if you can get past this? If not, then it may be better to move on.

GeorgeMichaelsCat · 25/02/2025 16:37

Did you see the proof from the DNA test or was it just what he said?

blacksax · 25/02/2025 16:37

Who told you the results of the DNA test showed that he wasn't the father?

Let me guess - he did. Do you believe him?

Maybe you need to contact the woman yourself, and find out for sure. And once you know, you have two choices. Either stay in the relationship or separate.

Dweetfidilove · 25/02/2025 16:42

If I'm reading this correctly, the DNA test proved the other man wasn't the baby's dad, yes?
Did your partner ever take a DNA test?

UnicornDaisy86 · 25/02/2025 16:47

Yes the other man took the DNA not my OH

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GeorgeMichaelsCat · 25/02/2025 19:54

UnicornDaisy86 · 25/02/2025 16:47

Yes the other man took the DNA not my OH

Did you see the results with your own eyes?

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