My husband has had MH problems for a while now (depression and anxiety). He believes it is situational as he doesn't like where we live.
He is driving me to the brink myself tbh. He is so grumpy and snappy or just completely keeps to himself. It is a rare occasion when he says anything just pleasant.
He does work ft and his job is stressful. Ironically the reason we live here is because he wanted to be here for his job. Now he says he hates it here, hates our house etc. He also knows we can't realistically afford to move in this area as we already have the best we can get (expensive market town in south east). Kids are at school here and one of them will go to secondary soon, so no point moving till then at least.
He really annoyed me last night by snapping at our 7yo and calling him pathetic for using a whiney voice. I said "don't talk to him like that" and I immediately get "leave me alone". I spoke to him later and said he needs to take some sort of action to help him get better and be more pleasant to live with.
I know someone will ask, and yes he is almost certainly ND (ASD and not especially mild in my opinion though high functioning).
He earns a very good salary, mine is rubbish (school admin). I have worked more in the past but he then has to do school runs or childcare in school holidays and he gets even more depressed and anxious when that happens.
Not really sure what to do about him. He doesn't want to go on medication for it