It’s now been 5 weeks since I’ve spoken to my mum (the longest previous to this argument was 1 week). She’s not spoken or seen me or my children or husband in this time also and made no attempt to get in touch with us. She lives very close (on the next street).
The fallout has stemmed from an argument that developed after she had told me she had shouted at and sworn at my 8 year old daughter after she had accidentally spilled a drink. After hearing this I told her a few home truths that had been building for a while and things escalated. I have always found her treatment of my children a little harsh (she speaks to them and disciplines them as she did to me and my sister when we were young) she corrects them on their table manners even if myself and my husband and sat there also. She makes no effort to come and see them or do anything with them. Yes…she helps us with child care but she makes it quite clear that this is a massive inconvenience for her and she would rather not. She never invites us round to her house despite me having her round most weekends for Sunday dinner - when I asked her why she simply replied ‘I can’t be bothered’. It makes me feel so sad that she has turned into this sort of person, I had a lovely childhood growing up and I love my mum but I really don’t like her very much at the moment. The argument ended when she put the phone down on me. I haven’t heard from her since and the longer this goes on the harder I’m finding it to even want to reconcile with her. What kind of a mother/nanny chooses not to see her child/ grandchild for 5 weeks. I just don’t know what to do, I’m very stubborn and don’t feel it should be me to apologise as I don’t think I’ve done anything wrong and she was the one who put the phone down on me.