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I can't take this snoring...!

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someonepressthestopbutton · 25/02/2025 00:29

Please make it stop!!! It's fucking horrendous. He's overweight.. un fucking healthy and sleep apnea is so bad. I've tried and tried to gently tell him it's out of control, he's made promises it will change - it hasn't. He's been staying here for over a week and now as his heating is broken.. honestly I'm done! 🤯 he's never going to change, his feet are firmly under the table and I need to tell him to leave before he gets too comfortable. No spare room sadly so off I go to the sofa I think!

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someonepressthestopbutton · 26/02/2025 22:42

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 26/02/2025 12:05

The only thing worse than a snorer is a snorer who refuses to either believe that they snore (easily overcome by recording them) or a snorer who knows they snore and won't get help.

Get him gone home, OP. Tell him to put a jumper on.

Recorded it, had the conversation many times.. got nowhere! I'm just delighted to have my house back and the noise gone. And the frigging cats climbing on everything also put my life 🙅‍♀️

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Castlerigg · 26/02/2025 22:46

Well done. Enjoy your lovely sleep!

Redshoeblueshoe · 26/02/2025 22:51

Good. Have a lovely nights sleep

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someonepressthestopbutton · 26/02/2025 22:51

Oh I will @Castlerigg 😆
It was awkward but it's made me realise how much I love my home and my own bed.

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someonepressthestopbutton · 26/02/2025 22:56

HappyAsASandboy · 26/02/2025 11:53

@ThisIsMyYearToFindMyself not the wrong thread at all.

The OP's partner is outstaying his welcome using a lack of oil at home to power his heating. I was just pointing out that delivery times are currently short for domestic heating oil, and restarting the boiler isn't rocket science.

Fobbed me off saying he'd chased it up after I asked what was happening-I suspect that was a complete lie (there has been many).. anyway, I didn't raise it again as his finances and circumstances are not my problem. Heating or not he's out the door, I'm far too long in the tooth for that nonsense.

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Mudflaps · 27/02/2025 16:50

Well done, its great to see a woman stand up for herself and not be taken advantage of. Enjoy your lovely proper sleep, the silence, etc.

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someonepressthestopbutton · 27/02/2025 20:07

Oh it was beautiful @Mudflaps 😊 definitely been a bit of a reality check! The comfort of your own bed and peace is priceless.

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BMW6 · 28/02/2025 10:21

Oh I'm SO glad you've kicked him out!

So many threads from women with cocklodgers who don't, it makes such a change to hear of someone taking action for once!

👏👏👏

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someonepressthestopbutton · 28/02/2025 13:08

It was never going to be a long term thing! If I'm honest I have realised I quite like my life and the simplicity of it, suddenly having two cats and someone snoring like a hog was a step too far for me. Having previously had a very difficult marriage I now take no sh*t so it most definitely wasn't up for debate. I have also decided to take a step back from this relationship and enjoy my life and my bed. Happy weekend all.

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Terrribletwos · 28/02/2025 13:12

someonepressthestopbutton · 25/02/2025 00:42

I just need to reclaim my home.. if I'm honest I've realised I'm quite happy with my little house and the odd sleepover. A week of this sh*t has been a reality check. I'm sure he'd love nothing more than to settle here but it's just not happening. Fortunately my sofa is large and comfortable and I'm quite happy being on it - for tonight only!

Sounds horrendous. I couldn't put up with this. Have an honest conversation and move him out.

Terrribletwos · 28/02/2025 13:13

What would be the reason why you wouldn't go back to living separately?

Terrribletwos · 28/02/2025 13:14

someonepressthestopbutton · 28/02/2025 13:08

It was never going to be a long term thing! If I'm honest I have realised I quite like my life and the simplicity of it, suddenly having two cats and someone snoring like a hog was a step too far for me. Having previously had a very difficult marriage I now take no sh*t so it most definitely wasn't up for debate. I have also decided to take a step back from this relationship and enjoy my life and my bed. Happy weekend all.

Ah, just read update. Good for you.

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