I was with my partner for 5 years. He moved in with me and my son who has Aspergers and it didn't work out. My son hated him living with us and he didn't understand his Aspergers. We agreed on my partner moving out and me and him continuing the relationship. It has been very up and down. Nice times punctuated by his resentment of my relationship with my child and in my opinion downright jealousy! He drinks a lot. Half a bottle of Bacardi most nights and it doesn't agree with him. He's a twat on alcohol. He has called me a c**t and bitch when drunk because I told him I'd pick my dog over him. I'd pick my dog over him as she never does me any harm. End of. He has moaned about our situation and thinks my son is spoilt. My son is 19. A good kid who is very quiet and doesn't go out or drink or smoke. I adore my son. Anyway, I finished with my partner 5 weeks ago. I've been doing ok. We had an argument one night when he was drinking and I just snapped. I told him I wasn't taking his resentment of my son anymore and that he drinks far too much and that the names he called me was emotional abuse. He has texted on and off since and I have been very matter of fact and cold. He is now saying he gets my protectiveness of my son and that he will cut back on his drinking. I enjoy a drink too like most people but not to that extent! I'm 50. He said I have to make my mind up for good and that it's not fair on him to have gone without a hug for over a month and he is lonely. FS. Is he a narcissist? He doesn't have kids of his own and his parents are dead. I have my parents and some good friends. He has insulted my child on drink to me before and I went ballistic. I genuinely think he wants to be number one. He never will be. I've tried explaining Aspergers to him over and over the last few years and he just doesn't get it! If my son acts a bit strangely He can't help it! He would never say anything to my son's face and is polite to him. Anyway, I've been feeling a bit jittery the last couple of days as I know it's time to tell him it's really over for good and to go no contact. I'm scared of going backwards and if I went back with him that these problems will arise again down the line. Should I run? Is he a lost cause? Is he manipulating me into feeling a bit sorry for him as if I'm a cold person for avoiding him for 5 weeks? He lives nearby. Any clarity from an outsider would help clear my head. No cheeky answers please as I am a very good mother just trying to sort my life out in my fifties. I've been married before. Thanks.