heartbroken

[pikachu89]

i'm 18 and just got dumped out of the blue i'm devastated and thought we would be together forever
im so angry and i just don't know what to do
will it all be ok ? i need to know

Put it down to a learning experience and move on, think about things that were good and bad about the relationship and make sure you look for only the good going forward. Have a good cry, cuddle a pillow and let it out your system and get back to enjoying life

At 18 you’ve a whole life ahead of you, may seem hard now but in a few months you’ll probably wonder what all the fuss was about, get out and enjoy yourself

Have a good cry, go for a long walk, run or gym session and spend some time doing nice things for yourself. Not to minimise your feelings but at eighteen these days it was unlikely to be forever. Spend time with friends. Prioritise dignity (as in don't 'accidentally' text him or anything like that, I've done that when older than 18, no harm done but I do regret it, it's completely transparent!). If you need to be in touch re belongings or uni/ college projects that's fine, be civil.

thank you everbody for your replies i appreciate it a lot

im feeling a lot more positive
life goes on

Well done on your attitude! I was 19 when I was dumped by my first boyfriend and utterly heartbroken. Things I did that were not a good idea:drinking too much, obsessing, thinking he was the only one who would ever want me and get me and that I would have in jokes with (so ridiculously wrong), snogging his flatmate (see previous poster advice about maintaining dignity) Things you should do: Read/listen to some Matthew hussey stuff, in particular there's a bit about who's right for you and someone who dumps you isn't right for you. Realise that the passing of time will change your feelings and perspective. Get out there and enjoy yourself meeting all kinds of people and that'll make his significance in your life diminish even if you are initially just going through the motions at first. Eventually you will genuinely be laughing and smiling and the heartbreak will reduce. Try not to make any decisions in the evening when you are tired- get plenty of sleep and decent food. Treat each day like it's your last day single and pleasing yourself- make it count and as good as possible- see people that bring you joy and boost you up and do things that give you joy and endorphins (for me that's exercise especially getting up hills) think of all the things you couldn't do when you were with him that you enjoy and do them. You'll be better than fine. I'm 47 now and can't believe I wasted so much of my life pining after unavailable men when there is so much joy to be had in other stuff.

Don’t worry, It 100% will get better, spend time doing what you enjoy , see your friends and make new friends. Good times are ahead , you are only 18 🤗

@pikachu89 - sorry to hear that, OP. Your first heartbreak is a very big deal. Go easy on yourself. But yes - it will be okay.

It may be hard to imagine now and the road to recovery may be a bit up and down, not necessarily completely linear. My first love finished with me after nearly 3 years together (I was 19) and although I began to feel quite a lot better after a few months, the first Xmas after splitting up was a bit sore; then unexpectedly seeing him with someone else about 6 months after splitting was a shock and felt like a bit of a set back. But with time my heart did heal completely and he just became a fond part of my history.

You will get there. In the meantime, allow yourself to feel some sadness and tears but also take this as a chance to focus on the things that you enjoy and that interest you. Perhaps start a new hobby. My sister took up piano to get over a romantic disappointment: she’s now got Grade 7 (and is very happily married to another man).