Morning, happy Monday! Thanks for listening to this, I feel I can’t talk to anyone IRL about this delicate matter and feeling isolated.
I’m currently trying to move out of partner’s home as tired of the arguing. His parents bought it for him, have been living here for 5 years. They get v involved financially/emotionally with things but luckily don’t live close by.
I have been signed off work and think it’s best to go back for the structure/friendship support. The past 2 weeks have been awful as been arguing about housework things. He then he gets down about himself/not being a father (not something I’m thinking about when signed off?!) and so my time is spent soothing him/trying to maintain the house. He mentions sex a lot which obviously I’m not in the mood for.
His parents phone a lot and he expects me to be all chirpy. I play along but it’s too much. He doesn’t see anyone like friends etc only work and I’ve tried to encourage him with this. I’ve tried to get him to stop drinking but continues each night (2 pints and spirits). It might not seem like much, but there’s no off days. We once went to the Dr about it and he was discharged by this other team. They actually said they’ve seen a lot worse which didn’t help much!
I’ve been trying to set up viewings. I didn’t know whether I should mention all this to employer/Dr when she calls later. Not sure what either could do, I think I just feel isolated with it all and embarrassed. I thought being signed off might be a wake up call but more seems to be expected of me.
Thanks so much for reading. I just feel so alone with it all and tired. I was signed off with work stress and managed to speak to boss and feel better now. I should have been able to rest at home but impossible with the above. I just want my independence back now.