Did I do the wrong thing or am I overthinking?

[BeRedHiker]

I was with my ex for 26 years and knew his family throughout that time. His parents were always lovely with me. Found out his mum passed away and I sent a sympathy card. It's not arrived yet and I'm suddenly feeling like I've done the wrong thing.

I just put sorry for your loss, Thinking of you all.

I don't want my ex back etc but his mum was a lovely person and I felt sad when I heard. I have no ill intentions etc.

You did a kind thing and nobody should read anything else into it.

That was a really decent thing to do OP.

Definitely the right thing to do, you knew and liked her so of course you want to express your condolesences

You're overthinking op, that was a really nice thing to do and I would have done the same

Way overthinking. You did a nice act. End of.

As others have said, overthinking it. You had a bond with this person, and all you are doing is acknowledging that sorry for your loss x

Massively overthinking it.

You're definitely overthinking. It was a kind, thoughtful gesture to someone you cared for.

I wouldn't overthink it. When my grandad passed away I got a message from my ex offering condolences and I really appreciated it (he spent a lot of time with him during our relationship). We'd been separated 8 years by then and I'm married now. I didn't read anything into it at all other than thinking it was kind of him to reach out.