Facebook dating. Help husband caught!

ok1992 · 2025-02-23T16:57:25+00:00

Long story short. My husband had cheated on me in the past , the reason I found out was I found him on Facebook dating. Now I'm a fool for taking him back! Fast forward to now. My Freind has sent me a screen recording of his profile still on Facebook dating. I confronted him about this and he comes up either the excuses he might of not canceled it but he has definitely not been getting notification's where by has forgot about his account. So for the people that are on Facebook dating is that even possible. I don't have Facebook so I don't know how the dating side works. Is there a way to still have your account but not receive notifications at all on your Facebook?

HeyItsPickleRick · 23/02/2025 17:22

Regardless of how the site works, I think you know what’s happening here. You can’t trust him.

Iamallowedtodisagreewithyou · 23/02/2025 17:24

Fucking men ought to be banned from the internet.

All they use it for is porn and cheating.

Mom2K · 23/02/2025 17:29

I tried Fb dating in the past - when I canceled it, it disappeared. No notifications or anything.

If I wanted to go back on it I'd have to set it up again or rejoin it or whatever it was I did before.

Your DH is lying.

Specso · 23/02/2025 17:29

While it’s possible someone may forget to cancel something, if you were caught cheating the first time on fb dating I think you’d be damn sure you’d have deleted it immediately upon getting caught the first time.

He’s lying. Again.

Mom2K · 23/02/2025 17:30

Specso · 23/02/2025 17:29

While it’s possible someone may forget to cancel something, if you were caught cheating the first time on fb dating I think you’d be damn sure you’d have deleted it immediately upon getting caught the first time.

He’s lying. Again.

This. With bells on.

You deserve so much better OP.

HornyHornersPinkyWinky · 23/02/2025 17:34

Just get rid of him, you will save so much anguish in the long run. He's never going to tell you the truth, he's a proven liar.

OneHardyMintZebra · 23/02/2025 17:48

I’m sorry OP, I’ve been there with the cheating husband. He never changed. To make it work after cheating, that person should do everything possible to regain your trust. I can’t imagine that would include ‘forgetting’ to take down a dating profile (that line was also used to me by my DH)
I don’t know much about Facebook. I think you can turn notifications off so they don’t come through to your phone etc. But whilst on Facebook I’m sure they still show up- just don’t get the notifications when the app is closed, to your email etc.
I believe he’s lying. You deserve better. But I understand what it feels like to desperately want to find an explanation. But unfortunately the explanation is he’s still cheating or trying to

Foxlovesfruit · 23/02/2025 17:55

People in relationships who cheat using dating sites are addicted to them and won't stop just because they got caught the first time. The attention from men/women on there polish their massive egos and their desire to feel wanted. Walk away, you deserve better.

With fb dating. You can either delete your profile or pause it. With each, you stop receiving notifications and presumably no longer visible. No point in being visible if your profile isn't open to dating. More like your partner consciously remained active but turned notifications off so you wouldn't see them and he could carry on being a letch.

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ok1992 · 23/02/2025 18:03

Foxlovesfruit · 23/02/2025 17:55

People in relationships who cheat using dating sites are addicted to them and won't stop just because they got caught the first time. The attention from men/women on there polish their massive egos and their desire to feel wanted. Walk away, you deserve better.

With fb dating. You can either delete your profile or pause it. With each, you stop receiving notifications and presumably no longer visible. No point in being visible if your profile isn't open to dating. More like your partner consciously remained active but turned notifications off so you wouldn't see them and he could carry on being a letch.

Thanks
I don't have access to his phone so I would never see his notifications, but I just wanted clarification that there is no way he could still have his profile viewable but not receive the notifications.

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TwistedWonder · 23/02/2025 18:04

I’ve used FB dating and if your account is active you get notifications.

If you delete or pause your profile you have to actively reactivate so he’s not being honest

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ok1992 · 23/02/2025 18:05

OneHardyMintZebra · 23/02/2025 17:48

I’m sorry OP, I’ve been there with the cheating husband. He never changed. To make it work after cheating, that person should do everything possible to regain your trust. I can’t imagine that would include ‘forgetting’ to take down a dating profile (that line was also used to me by my DH)
I don’t know much about Facebook. I think you can turn notifications off so they don’t come through to your phone etc. But whilst on Facebook I’m sure they still show up- just don’t get the notifications when the app is closed, to your email etc.
I believe he’s lying. You deserve better. But I understand what it feels like to desperately want to find an explanation. But unfortunately the explanation is he’s still cheating or trying to

Yes that's what I was trying to get clarification on, he would still see his Facebook dating notifications when he opens up his app.

He's just a liar, and normally can work his way out of things . But this. No.

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iluwn · 23/02/2025 18:06

If it quacks like a duck...

I was on it for a while and you can pause it and you do stop getting notifications but then your profile isn't visible to others either so your friend wouldn't have been able to see the profile.
That means he has an active profile still. He might have disabled notifications or ignored them or whatever, but in my experience, if you're having concerns about something like this it means you don't trust him. You don't trust him to not go on facebook dating again and you don't believe what he has told you either which means that the trust in the relationship has gone and that it's probably over.

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ok1992 · 23/02/2025 18:10

TwistedWonder · 23/02/2025 18:04

I’ve used FB dating and if your account is active you get notifications.

If you delete or pause your profile you have to actively reactivate so he’s not being honest

Thank you.

Are the notifications mixed in with other notifications, or is there a separate section for the dating notifications?

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TwistedWonder · 23/02/2025 18:12

ok1992 · 23/02/2025 18:10

Thank you.

Are the notifications mixed in with other notifications, or is there a separate section for the dating notifications?

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Separate. It’s the heart (shown in pic) and it shows you how many notifications you have in dating on the heart.

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ok1992 · 23/02/2025 18:14

Specso · 23/02/2025 17:29

While it’s possible someone may forget to cancel something, if you were caught cheating the first time on fb dating I think you’d be damn sure you’d have deleted it immediately upon getting caught the first time.

He’s lying. Again.

Yeah!

That was actually part of his excuse, he said why would I use Facebook dating again when you can't change your location, and one of your friends might see me on it.

He was trying to gaslight me and make me believe that it doesn't make sense. So it has to be a mistake .

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