A Dating One

[potsandpansandbowls]

I was seeing someone quite a while ago that didn't want commitment. The attraction was there and we got on and had things in common. I am trying to move on but just don't fancy anyone's photos on any dating apps or they don't have anything interesting or in common with me from their profiles

In the past I've had dates with men that I've met in the wild so to speak
that I've got on well with and haven't initially fancied. Even after a few dates the attraction never develops. It's the same with online dating - I might chat to someone who I think I could be a good match with but don't fancy them from the photos. I've met up with them and there's been no attraction.

I'm not saying I look like a film star, by the way, but I'm thinking the chances of me meeting a partner now in my late 50s are very slim. Anyone in the same situation or have any advice?

You are open to being in a relationship but you are not desperate to be in one with just anyone. In the meantime, modern life makes it hard to meet new people at any age, so pick an activity that you genuinely enjoy doing and that you can do safely with a complete stranger, stop looking for 'matches' and chatting online etc. and just suggest a meet up to people from the dating app who don't have any serious 'dealbreakers' in their profile that strongly suggest you wouldn't want to spend a couple of hours in their company. Don't focus on photos or whether they have much in common or of interest to say in their profile. Just do something that you enjoy doing for a couple of hours with new and different men. Be open to everything, expect nothing. Treat safely meeting up with new people as a hobby. If it stops being fun or interesting, take a break from it. Make sure to prioritise other fulfilling ways to spend your time too.