Am I right to be suspicious about my boyfriend speaking to another woman?

[Chattyapple123]

We have been dating for 6 months. In the earlier stages we had some disagreements about him liking other womens photos on social media. He has now stopped that.

I was on a phone call to him yesterday and he said ‘yeah I told you this story the other day’ when he definitely didn’t so I joked and said must have been another woman. He just laughed and said he’s probably told other women in the past but definitely told me it.

We communicate on whatsapp and instagram. I sent him a link to a funny video on whatsapp. He then the next day sent me the link to the same video on instagram and said I needed to watch it?

This suggests to me he is speaking to another woman. I have a history of being cheated on so feel anxious and don’t know whether I am being paranoid.

What do you think?

Nothing in what you’ve said would make me think twice.

There is nothing in his behaviour that suggests he is speaking to other women now. Perhaps he has a bad memory though (is he well?)

When he said "must have told other women it" perhaps he meant in the past you know...before dating you?

If you don't like him liking other women's pictures on SM then just don't be with him.

It's six months in. It shouldn't be this hard and he's obviously not your door.

Relationships shouldn't be this hard.

Sorry OP, this was exactly the kind of thing my ex used to trip himself up over.

I remember once he messaged me whilst we were mid text exchange talking about something else, saying "just watching a film how about you x?" It was clear he was replying to a message from someone else and clicked on the wrong chat to reply.

Also recall him saying "Yeah you remember the van that was parked outside my house when you were here last week?" When I hadn't been to his house for at least a month and had never seen the van before.

He was cheating/messaging other women. I ended up finding out in a far more obvious way, but wish I'd have taken heed to the initial signs.

Thankyou. How did you eventually find out?

Liking other women's photos was probably before you went exclusive right?

You don't trust him at all. I don't think you're in the right mindframe for a relationship op. I've been cheated on twice and did therapy for both after so I got over it and never compare my bf to exes

Six months in? If you don't trust him cut your losses. It's as simple as that.

Too much drama and suspicion for 6 months in!

@Chattyapple123 Found messages on his phone, and then a pair of women's shoes in his house. No way of him being able to argue with those, although he did try and lie his way out of it.

Even the most skilled liars tend to get complacent and trip themselves up eventually.

Too much silly ‘did he didn’t he’ for a new relationship.

My friends send me videos on Instagram etc and I very rarely watch them so easy to forget or resend.

It could be he doesn't sound that invested in you but not remembering what he's told you, sending same video etc, hard to answer whether it's another woman or he has too many friends to remember what he's said. I wouldn't stick it out if you feel this unsure, you'll drive yourself mad about everything he says or does, maybe you're not ready for a relationship or he just isn't the right one.

You need to chill the eff out.

Telling him he can't like women's pictures and now you're saying he's cheating because of those two things? In 6 months?

If you were my friend I'd tell you to get a massive grip. You aren't ready for dating and need to work on yourself first before jumping into any relationship.

Being controlling is not a good look.

It's okay to be insecure but it's not okay to act like this and take it out on your boyfriend. You don't trust him then end it but don't do this.

Have you checked your are exclusive?

@Doggymummar we are exclusive I have met his mum and friends and he officially asked me to be his girlfriend.

@GoldBeautifulHeart he also told me he has a second phone incase he lost is which I think is suspicious. I haven’t voiced my concerns to him so Im not being controlling I just am paranoid in my own head.