Would this bother you?

[Donnydarko1]

Boyfriend of 1 year, we don’t live together and aren’t planning on it for a while. He is moving house at the minute to a new one.
he has an ex of 5 years who through the first 6 months of our realrionship kept texting him, ringing him, wanting him back, any excuse to me in contact. It bothered me so he put an end to it and blocked her, that was the end of it and he said he wouldn’t be in contact with her anymore ( I didn’t ask him to block or cur contact, but I did said I wasn’t happy with how she kept popping up and he said he wasn’t either and that he had decided to block her)
jump to now, he told me yesterday that last weekend she had came over to collect some of the stuff that was in his spare room belonging to her (furniture, they had lived together in this house).
I don’t think anything went on with them but I feel a bit funny or something that they had been in touch and that he was only telling me now and it was a week ago. I would have rathered known as it happened especially given the agro she caused when we first met. I’ve no problem her collecting her stuff but I would have liked to have known it was happening at least.
aibu?

I would have left them to it when they were in contact at the beginning.

I don’t think knowing would have made much difference. It sounds like they’ll always have something between them tbh.

At the start it was genuinely one sided from her. I’m not worried that there was anything going on then, she was just trying her best to get his attention so he shut it down. I don’t feel there’s anything romantic going on there, I just feel like that’s something he should have gave me heads up about

I agree it was relevant and you’d think it would pop up in conversation that he was planning to do this

And naturally you are wondering why it didn’t

options

He is just thoughtless - and didn’t give it a second thought
He forgot to mention it
He has been in contact again (because how did he tell her to come etc) and was contact therefore reinstated

Either way if she is now blocked again I don’t see why you are too concerned

Just wondering how they sorted out the arrangements for her to pick up her stuff if he’d blocked her? Did they meet by chance, or did she write him a letter or turn up at the house? I’d be interested to know more of how it came about if I were you. I’d also be surprised the he didn’t tell you at the time.

I was wondering this too?

He's moving house, he needs her stuff gone. Pretty natural for him to contact her I would have thought. I think you're over thinking this to be honest.

How long were they broken up for if she was still trying to get back with him, he was still entertaining it and he still has her stuff?

This. He obviously didn't want to take her stuff to his new house with him.