At what age did your DP/DH become a boring middle aged man?

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Mine has just turned 36 and describes himself as a middle aged man! I’m finding him really boring. Everything is grey and a bit lifeless if you know what I mean.
Im a year older and still feel young and full of life. Definitely not ready for a slow quiet life.

Well maybe he finds things changing in you that he doesn't like?

It's funny all these threads about how terrible men are but if even a tiny comment of something a man says about a women it is leave now there is so many red flags

You’ve got the ick. Leave him. He sounds dull and, however he acts, he’s not yet middle aged so you probably have another 45 years of this.

No the men I work with are all boring, it’s maybe what adds to my worries.
My grandma has always said old men are boring.
PP are right I need to shake him up. Add the spice back into our relationship.

I do think about this a lot.

Don't discount depression. My DH got like this and it was never strong enough for him to get to a GP, always minimising it, but he has spent a good few years doom scrolling endlessly on YouTube and just not doing much and I think ultimately he's been fairly depressed.

DH is 56, he isn't boring but does have trouble staying awake past 9pm and has been known to nap in the afternoon.
Which tbh I find it a bit exasperating!
He can also be grumpy, tolerance levels are low....
This has been going on for a few years and I think gradually getting worse...

Mine is 52 but turned into an old man about 15 years ago, sadly. He is a good and kind man, but he just wants a quiet life at home. I can't bear it. I expected this about 20 years from now but I'm only mid-40s and the lack of any excitement, adventure or passion is a real killer.

DH is 49 and although I think he’s getting grumpier with age, he’s definitely not boring at all. He’s really active and always up for adventure.

I wouldn’t consider 36 middle aged! We’re late 40s and I’m only really thinking of us as middle aged now.

Eh?! My DH is 52 and whilst he certainly has his moments of grumpiness, in general he is more vibrant than I am.. I woke him up at 3am recently because I wanted to drive to the beach to watch the sunrise with a picnic breakfast.
He grumbled for a few mins but then he did it... packed the picnic and all.
I have noticed he's less passionately engaged with things he used to be. But it's not like that's totally gone, just toned down.
He's gone a bit grey but he runs 5k every morning and is still the most handsome man I ever saw.
He does fall asleep if I put a film on past 10pm tho 🤣 however lots of people of any age would do that, I'm just a night owl.

I love that- getting up early to watch the sunrise with a picnic. I’m always telling him he needs to get some sun on him, so this might be the perfect solution.

As a PP said maybe he’s depressed and not really letting on.

Thank you everyone who has replied x

This is what mine is like. Have you been able to help him shake out of it at all? I asked DH if he thinks he could be depressed and his response was “I don’t get depressed.” To answer your question, OP, he’s in his mid 30s. I’d say he’s been like this for about a year.

Quite young, around 33/34? I'm 46 now and in the last couple of years become a grumpy middle aged woman so we are well matched now!

Mine's 75 next month and shows no sign of Boring Old Fart syndrome, yet.
We've been together for 56 of those years and his personality is still as attractive as it always has been.
Just one of nature's all round good guys.
I think that he's still pretty hot too.

When he was 32

Sounds like the kind of thing my boring middle aged husband would say.

On MN either you have to go have a wild night clubbing with Italian stallions or be glued to the sofa.
There are so many things you can do in between: theatre, art, museums, live music, cinema.. If your man doesnt want to ever go out, go alone or with friends.