Confused by husband's mood swings

[RoseInc]

For the most part, my husband and I get on really well. However, sometimes I will do something that will trigger his mood swings. This could be like me giggling because when we are folding clothes together, he is still on the first shirt whilst I've done about 10. Or I switch on the dishwasher without checking if there are any dirty cups in his office.

This then causes him to get angry - not just say he's angry and then give himself a bit of space - but he will be angry at me for the next couple of hours, saying all sorts of horrible things about me. He'll then mock me, mimicking what he perceives I've been doing towards him.

I usually stay quiet, have previously said 'OK' to stop my anxiety levels from increasing but this makes him even angrier, so for the most part i just stay quiet and accept all the horrible things he says about me. I say I'm sorry, but he says no you're not.

I just feel so lost and alone, like I can't 'win' when he's in these moods. He says I'm the only one who causes him to get angry

"He says I'm the only one who causes him to get angry"

No you aren't you're just the only one that puts up with it and he'd knows he'd can get away with it.
He's an abusive twat and you shouldn't put up with his shit!
Leave him or tell him to shape up or ship out. You do not need to take his shit.

You don’t need to “win” against this pathetic man. Next time look him in the eye and tell him to fuck right off with his toddler moods. And mean it. Then ignore him and carry on with your day. He will stop. And if he doesn’t? In the bin.

He's a bully and sounds like a nasty piece of work. You're his punch bag. I'd get legal advice regarding separation then have a final talk. He either stops this behaviour or you're filing for divorce. Be prepared to follow up on it.

So why can’t he bring his dirty cups to at least the kitchen when he leaves his office? Heaven forbid he puts them in the dishwasher that would take oooo seconds, no better to feel like a big man shouting at a female, his wife no less, the one woman he’s supposed to love and want to protect.

He one of those faulty men who are bullies.

If you are concerned or scared to react how you want to, it’s not a marriage really is it? You are his housework/sex provider and everything is fine as long as you behave. Up to you if this is how you want to live.

You don’t make him do anything. He’s a grown adult who is in control of his own moods and behaviour. You are in an abusive relationship and you need to take steps to leave as it will only get worse. I hope you don’t have any children. Please read the book linked. It’s free and will help you identify the abuse you’re experiencing for what it is.

www.docdroid.net/2fZmz40/why-does-he-do-that-pdf

Thus. No need to get him walk all over you.

I hope to God you don't have DC with him. He sounds like a bullying idiot!