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Does this sound like supervised contact to you?

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mellowyell · 21/02/2025 18:23

I recently met someone who initially said they see their child on weekends, but over time, I’ve noticed that their main form of contact is a one-hour phone call, during which the dads sibling is also present on the call. At first, I thought this was just a sweet family dynamic, but it became clear that this is their primary form of contact. In the three months I’ve known them, there has been no in-person visitation - just one visit to a school event. Aside from that, all interactions appear to be this weekly supervised phone call.

They haven’t shared why this is the case, and I didn’t press for details, but it made me wonder - does this sound like a supervised contact arrangement? What kinds of circumstances typically lead to these restrictions?

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Lightuptheroom · 21/02/2025 22:37

Phone calls are normally either 'indirect contact' or part of a bigger contact 'package' ie when I divorced my ds saw his dad every other weekend and had a phone call on the 'other' week. If the phone calls are being supervised by another adult then at some point he has been saying things to the child (either about the other parent or about the current arrangements) that a family court judge has decided has to be watched over. Supervised contact of this type is usually as a way of building up to unsupervised and would have a set time frame (judges like to see things improving and moving forward)
I'm afraid that if he's under this level of supervision he's either been abusive or not had regular contact for a long time and the court wants to be able to monitor progress.
The other problem for you is the lying, surely he would have been wiser to explain the current situation and what the future patten is expected to look like.

TinyMouseTheatre · 22/02/2025 09:02

I think I know everything I need to know this is not for me, but would Claire's law cover potential reasons why?

So does that mean you've ended the relationship?

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