Exploring bi sexuality

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Are there any bi / queer / lesbian women here?
So I’m in my early 30s and have always been attracted to women and had crushes on them, but I’ve never explored it and stuck to dating men.
I’m single at the moment and want to explore this side of myself, I feel ready now.
I recently set my hinge profile to match with women. I have been messaging someone for a couple of weeks who is a lesbian. I don’t have my orientation on my profile. We haven’t discussed it. I am developing a crush and I would like to ask her on a date.
However I know some lesbian woman don’t want to date a bi or bi curious woman as they don’t want to feel like an experiment understandably.
I am quite sure I am bi but perhaps I cannot be 100% sure if I have never slept with or had a relationship with a woman.
Is this something I should bring up now? I mean she hasn’t asked for my situation or relationship history but I don’t want to potentially mislead her or waste her time.
This is so alien to me and I’m very nervous but excited too! If anyone has any advice or perspective that would be super helpful! Thanks 🙏

You don’t have to decide or state anything at this stage: it’s a first date not a lifelong commitment, plenty of them never go any further than that, you might not get on in person or have any chemistry - and that could be simply because it’s one of those things rather than about whether you’re bisexual or not. You can discuss things further as and when they come up in person, where conversation can be much more productive than by text.

Go with your gut feeling and don't worry about painstakingly defining your sexuality....it doesn't actually matter that much (only for women who have issues with it or have been burned in the past).
As long as you aren't one of those woman wanting a threesome or some odd plan, you should be fine! Enjoy it!

You don't have to decide now. No woman is going to be angry with you, and you don't have to disclose all of the ins and outs beforehand anyway. Just go on the date and see how you feel. You might end up kissing her and feeling nothing! Or it might make you realise a lot.

You don't know until you try, and we've all been in that position before. I always thought I was bi, but didn't act on it for a long time. She was my best friend (still is), and it was just...right. We broke up for other reasons (she moved back to the US for family troubles) but had a lovely relationship, and she didn't mind a bit when I explained my lack of experience. I'd be the same myself if I wasn't married to DH, and a woman said that to me.

We all have to start somewhere.

I agree with the comments from others above. I thought l was straight and discovered my bi side in my 30s (40s now), I’m still attracted to both sexes but prefer to regard myself as “sexual” without a prefix.

You are aware of the situation and attitude of some re being thought of as an experiment etc. What you have articulately written in your OP is one for a 1:1 conversation at a future stage. If it comes up in any pre-date discussions of course mention it, otherwise it’s one for the future.

thanks so much for these responses!

I'm 61 and for many years have been interested in women but I've never done anything about it.
My curiosity needs to be explored but I'm unsure of how.

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