Red flag?

[Cattyhappy]

My partner also father of our child… I discovered he is following all sorts of different women in his Instagram page some who he doesn’t know just lust and following them for their bodies. The other thing was he follows a woman who he had a sexual interaction with when he was about 15 he is now 32. My thing is whether is was from your teenage years out of respect for me why are you still following her??? He says I’m being silly and it was just a sexual act when he was young and his never spoken to her since then…. So I just left it and yes he still follows her. Am I being silly and should just let it go?

When you say the follows all sorts of different women on his instagram- do you mean like Onlyfans type stuff or just general influencer? After all that is what Instagram is for… following people. It depends what they do. Saying that, I wouldn’t think too much into it. I know my husband has shite on his Twitter feeds but he laughs at them more than anything!

and for the ex fling thing…is this a new follow
or old one? He could just be following but not interested out of curiosity, it doesn’t mean anything IMO either way. Unless you have evidence of other contact, that’s different.

I've all sorts of curiosity about people i knew in the past - def nothing sinister just general curiosity

Good grief Instagram causes so much nonsense in relationships it’s ridiculous. Stop looking at his social media it’s nothing to do with you. The algorithm puts women in your feed whether you want them or not. And being jealous of someone from when he was a child is just out of order. Leave the bloke alone.

I think it's kind of up to you as a couple. You said you are uncomfortable with him following the person he had the interaction with and, while I agree with the others that it very likely means absolutely nothing, it feels uncomfortable to you. If it means nothing to him and upsets you, then I think that it's not unreasonable to ask that he unfollow her. I would not say it's a red flag but it's worth talking through just to help make sure you both know where your boundaries are with and for each other.

Nail
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I have never felt the need to dictate to my husband who he can and can't follow or be friends with on social media. His highschool sweetheart is on his facebook as far as I know, as are a few women he dated throughout the years. Honestly I couldn't care less, as long as I didn't think anything inappropriate was going on. It would be a whole other story if he was messaging them regularly or using their pictures for nasty business 😆
I'd say leave it alone.

Does he have form for cheating on you?

Do you have any other reason to distrust him and suspect he's hoping or working on cheating on you with any of these women?

If not, is this the hill you want to die on?

Yes, it's pretty gross that he's leching over women on Instagram and I would think less of him, but policing him is a hiding to nothing, bad for your mental health and he'll probably resent you and hide his activities if you make a big issue of it.