Confused on what I want

[MauveFox]

I don't know where to start this but I have been with my SO on and off for 10 years, I feel like he doesn't appreciate me or our child and doesn't want to spend time with us. He is a sahd but rarely does the cleaning/cooking, doesnt take the child to appontments/doesnt arrange appointments/doesn't do the shopping and doesn't take our child to do activities unless I ask him to.He isn't affectionate and doesn't spend any time with me unless I moan about it. I He is always wanting me to buy him things or go out with his mates drinking (not always a problem as he needs to socialise with adults)and I have asked him to look for part time work to help financially but hasn't and still expects things.

I have recently found myself thinking about how different it would be if I were single but I feel trapped and that I cannot break things off as we have recently moved away from all family and friends, he hasn't got any income to find a new place and I wouldn't want to split my child up from his dad.

I guess I don't really know what I want/can do. any advice?

Are you fully supporting him financially? It sounds like he does fuck all under the guise of being a SAHD.

I think the first thing you must do is get him back into full-time work. He's supposed to be a SAHD but he's by no means filling the brief and it leaves you vulnerable if he went for more than 50-50 custody in the event of a split. But honestly, he sounds dreadful. What does he actually add to your life?

Yes, I work full time pay all the bills, shopping, outings etc.

I have asked him to look for part time work - I would prefer him back in full time but due to my sons age and being in school part time would be better suited

If he went full time, you could pay for childcare on 2 incomes. He is taking the piss and you are keeping him. He's loving it, I expect you pay for his drink with the boys as well. A relationship should be an equal partnership, not one sided. Take you child and leave. If you are worried about childcare then give him 50-50 custody, he'll have to do his bit then. If he gets nasty get legal advice or go to Women's aid.