Need advice

[mumoftwoboys321]

Hi I've been in a relationship for 17 years have two children we've had our ups and downs like all people do, I recently found a valentines card in his bag from a woman we met on holiday last year I knew there had been contact couple of phone calls and some messaging as he told me about this, he recently went out for the day and apparently they bumped into each other claims it wasn't arranged I really don't know what to think he claims he loves me and him and her are only friends but I can't help but think he's lying we're currently on a brake as he says I deserve better than him well that just makes me think that it hasn't been friendship, I don't really have anyone to turn to and I don't want family knowing anything as at the moment we're still living together

Of course he is lying.

Why has he hidden it?

Sorry but the fact that you're on a break too points to him lying.

I'd tell him to leave because if he does want ti be with her then you will get more hurt the longer it drags on.

If he does want to be with you then he will do all he can to ensure he is!

You know exactly what’s happening here, trust your gut. What a bastard.

He is lying through his teeth. He feels that because you're on a break he can meet this other woman far more openly.

What is the situation re the finances and property?. Are you married to this individual?.

‘We’re on a break because he says I deserve better than him’

When someone tells you who they are, believe them! He’s lying, dump him x

No not married and we rent I'm looking for some where else as wouldn't want to live in our home just don't understand how someone can ruin everything after so long is there no such thing as till the end just can't work out where and why this has happened

Lying git ,is the other woman single?

He's lying.

He's clearly involved with this woman.

You deserve better.

No she's married with kids, just never visioned it not being us when we chose to have kids I thought this is my forever now I'm so lost and confused and have no one to turn to and have to pretend to the kids that everything's ok as I haven't found the words to tell them it's going to really upset them

Can you speak to her husband?

I don't know his details