OLD advice no clue what I’m doing 😆

[Stressheadmumma]

Ok so just want to browse and window shop so to speak mainly to help me move on from long term relationship. Don’t want hook ups or sex. Just want connection and conversation which appreciate most men will not be interested in. But I just want to move my mindset and see what else is out there so can move forward I guess.

so don’t want to pay for anything as I’m not serious enough about it to do that. Have tried FB dating but it glitches all the time and keeps showing same people and can’t get it to move on. Anyone else had this? What would be the next best free dating app? I like FB one but just can’t get it to work!

Try Bumble. The free version is absolutely fine.

The only thing you might not like is that woman sends first message but only after you match so you’re not messaging cold.

When you say “connection & conversation” do you mean meet ups or just on line conversations?

From what I have read from MN threads, the OLD sites are mainly men looking for sex & not much else, I hope you find what you are hoping for, without too many bad experiences.

I think you need to decide if you are ready for OLD.
In all honesty, it can be a demoralising experience because as others have said a lot of people are on there for a quick hook up, although they won't tell you that. There are a lot that aren't but it's luck of the draw.

You'll also potentially find that you match with lots of people, and no one responds so as much as you can, take it for what it is.

Id say Hinge, bumble and tinder are all the same. There isn't one that has less seedy people than others. I've had inappropriate messages across the board. More depends which you like the set up for.
Match is one I'd avoid because I don't think the free version is very good and the paid version is horribly pricy for not much benefit.

Bumble and Tinder you swipe and when both of you swipe right then you match and it opens the conversation. Bumble you have 24hrs to start chatting (and the other person then has 24hrs to respond) to make it a fully open chat otherwise it times out and you can't talk (unless you pay). Women don't have to message first anymore if you set an opening question, but men haven't figured this out so will expect you to go first.
Tinder there isn't a time element.

Hinge you like a specific part of their profile and they are notified. They can then decide to match back or not to open the chat.

I've not had much luck across any of them in the 18 months I've been on them, but others I know have.
I've chatted to some nice people (and some awful), but very few led to a date.

Thanks for all the advice guys. Yes I’m not sure I’m ready hence just holding back and window shopping so to speak 🫣🤣. Then after that maybe I’d be brave enough to go on some dates!! Eek!

You are going to struggle to find what you are looking for on the apps. Generally, people, men and women, either want a relationship or casual sex.

you could try bumbles BFF option, but I imagine that’s to find friends of the same sex predominantly, or you could join some clubs or Facebook social groups to see who you might meet organically.