Claire's Law disclosure - what to expect?

[lodiol]

I've submitted a Claire's law request yesterday and they have got back to me this morning to say disclosure has been authorised. The police officer assigned has arranged a video call with me to take place in a few days. Has anyone been through the process before? Does this mean that there is something significant to disclose? What kind of things could be covered? What can I expect?

My mind is going crazy right now, but something occurred between us that caused me a great deal of distress, but he completely gaslight me. Then there were other suspicions and generally being cagey about certain details in his life.

I have name changed but I wrote a post after our first date and most people told me to drop him. You were all absolutely right.

I'm curious to know, why, If you've got rid of him, do you need to know about his past?

They will share with you information about previous violent or abusive offending. They wouldn't share other information about convictions that they don't deem relevant to inform you about, such as shoplifting or drug charges etc.

They may share reports even if they did not lead to convictions.

It's not as simple as that. It sounds like op may have been in a DV situation with this person . She's got rid of him. But this is often when a victim is most at risk. She need to know what sort of risk this person is and what sort of support may be needed by professionals. She may need a safety plan of some sort.

They must have something to disclose as some get told there’s nothing via a quick phone call and then some have to go to the police station.

I do wish women would walk away the first time they get a red flag. Some on here get a police disclosure and still continue to date these men so please don’t be one of those.

@Youagain2025 thank you for understanding. I have no idea what more this person is capable of and I would like to know what I'm dealing with

Thank you, as they've only arranged a call I understand it may be something or nothing, but as I have to wait a few days it is causing some anxiety.

You're right. I didn't walk away immediately and I wish I did, but I certainly won't be one of those that will continue to see him. I've seen enough to know not to go any further, even if nothing substantial is disclosed.

I did a Claire’s Law and just got a quick phone call to say no violent crimes or domestic abuse.

Thank you

They wouldn't arrange a disclosure with you if there wasn't something relevant they wanted to tell you. It could be anything from someone reported him for something violent or abusive once (from hitting someone to controlling behaviour or stalking etc) but no further action was taken, up to him having convictions for serious crimes.

It must be stressful waiting to hear.

I think you are sensible to find out about it. Hopefully it is nothing that will suggest you are in any danger now, but I would definitely want to know if there was anything I needed to be aware of.

@lodiol definitely stay away from him regardless of what clairs law say. If it says he was reported for xyz but no charges. Do not use that as a reason to give him a chance. You already encounted a situation with him that alone is enough.

24 hours is an incredibly fast turnaround for contacting you for a disclosure. Someone is either really on their game, or they deem this quite urgent and serious.

Is telling that they've just arranged a phone call instead of inviting me in to the police station?

Have they called you yet?

It doesn’t matter what the outcome of this is - leave, do not stay!! Please never see him again!!