Hi…. I have a blended family of two step kids who’ve lost their mum and 3 kids together. Married 8yrs - husband was widowed when I met him. Marriage has been toxic from day one, he has always been violent with me, when pregnant and when not pregnant. Not just physical violence , emotional too. I don’t work, he says he’ll take everything from me. Name not on house. We’ve had numbers incidents where I’ve called the police out and now social services are involved at a very low level (absolutely distraught by this). I’ve had a few occasions of what I’ve now learnt is reactive abuse , where I’ve absolutely lost the plot and been screaming and shouting etc. it’s been horrendous over the years to be honest. I want to split but also want to try and make it work. I’ve stopped drinking, seeing a therapist and doing lots of work on myself. Go the gym daily. Husband doing nothing but being nice for a few days and when he doesn’t get sex (I’m working on trying to get all that back) he kicks off. But he’s not doing anything to change he just says the right things and does the right things for a bit and I know it’s hard because I’m emotionally detached at the moment I’m trying so hard. But one thing I need help with is , now social services are involved he keeps saying he’ll get my kids taken off me. That I’m unfit and they’re only involved because of me - not true it’s because of the domestic violence reports - wish I’d never reported them. Today my daughter was being extremely difficult and I said if she didn’t stop I’d smack her a*se but I’ve never ever hit my kids and I never would. It just came out my mouth, he’s saying he’s going to report me for it and I’m an unfit mother. I feel like I’m losing the plot I’m trying so hard to keep it together but he tells I’m all these things and everything is all my fault. I know I’m definitely not perfect but he’s just angry with me because I can’t turn my feelings back to what they were and because he’s not trying to seek any therapy or anything I kind of think, well why should I give my love and you’re not doing anything to change. Don’t really know what the point in my post is apart from to ask the question , will socials services look into me for saying that to my little girl if he tells them? I feel sick thinking about it. My kids are so well looked after and loved. We live a lovely life in a lovely house and I’ve never laid a finger on any of them - albeit I shout at them at times. There’s not neglect or abuse in the home apart from what he says to me. He doesn’t hit me anymore because I’ve photographed all the times he has. Everything is such a mess.