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Marriage breakdown

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Brokenhearted80 · 18/02/2025 08:47

First time posting on here. Don’t even know what I’m looking for, I think I just need some support and guidance. It’s our 10th wedding anniversary 28 February, been together almost 16 years and i think we are heading for a separation. I don’t want to, but he’s not talking to me, won’t be in the same room as me, only communicating through messages about kids. To say I’m heartbroken is an understatement. I love him very much, but he clearly doesn’t feel the same. The issues we have are with his family, mainly his mum and younger brother. I don’t speak to them and my husband blames me, even though he’s admitted that his mum is interfering, jealous and can be very intrusive. We have two boys and ever since my eldest was born she has made my life so difficult. Long story short, last Saturday we got in to an argument and I told him that I felt heartbroken that he doesn’t take my side and support me, he told me he didn’t want to be with me anymore. I’m so lost. I can’t think straight. I’m really scared and don’t want to lose him, but if he doesn’t want me I’m not going to lower myself to begging. How do I navigate separation whilst living in the same house? How don’t I tell my kids?

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PossiblyPertunia · 18/02/2025 10:26

Bumping this for you. I'm sorry you've had to deal with so much with your husbands family. He should definitely have your back.

AttilaTheMeerkat · 18/02/2025 10:36

Take him at his word now. I would seek legal advice re all aspects of separation and divorce from him asap. Knowledge here is also power.

The rotten apple that is he did not fall far from the rotten tree in the shape of his mother and brother who are toxic too. He has blamed you for their behaviour but he is completely wrong in that respect. You're only responsible for your own actions. His own inertia when it comes to them hurts him. Leave him to his rotten family and seek a fair financial settlement.

Give your children the age appropriate truth re you and their dad and tell them it is not their fault. You and they will be ok.

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