Ex won't leave me alone but it's not threatening

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Hi, I was on off with a guy who repeatedly ended for small things the. Would disappear then come back. This man utterly destroyed me. I was completely in love with him and he broke my heart. It was all emotional abuse calling me crazy etc. He ended it the. 6 months later come back begging me. I still had feelings so I give him another chance. This time he was different. So jealous and controlling then he started bringing his ex in. I had enough last April and ended it. Finally feel free. Every few weeks he tries to get in contact begging me. I've reacted a few times but I am determined to fully walk away. I'm not intrested and all the torment he put me through I'm finally on the other side.

I've blocked him on every thing but his emails still come through. Today he has sent over 45 emails including a few to my work email.

The thing is I'm ignoring it but it's stressing me out and just want him gone for good.

I don't know what to do because when I look online he's not threatening me it's just begging and I can see he is trying to manipulate.

I really don't want to get police involved because they might think I'm silly. I don't no what to do

You may not feel that it's threatening OP, but it IS harassment and that is a crime. I'd call 111 and speak to the police about it. You need him to leave you the fuck alone so you can move on with your life and what he's doing is abusive.

I just am worried I will be laughed at. He is up and down one minute being nice the next saying no one will love me like he did. He keeps saying just tell me it's done for good. But I have months ago a million times. I know he's trying to get my to engage. I'm staying strong and not going to I just want him to back off.

Derek, I do not wish to be contacted by you again. Do not contact me via any method or I will report you to the police for harrassment.

Then you block him. And repeat. They won't think you're silly, but you do have to stand your ground if you want it to stop.

45 emails would absolutely get you taken seriously by police. I had a partner call 60 times in a day (one day) and the police said they were very happy to take it further as harassment. The police won’t laugh at you - it can be a sign of further things to come

have you seen baby reindeer btw?

I know someone who was harassed by email, repeatedly.
She went to the police and they dealt with it very well.

I have 100s of emails from over the last few months that are in a folder.

Yeah I've seen baby raindeer.

I've already threatened him with the police I said this is harassment and I'm telling you to leave me alone. He then said he would leave me alone and he was ashamed of him self. Then gradually it's got worse.

He wasted 5 years of my life now he's blaming me for him not having child ( thank god) and aload of other things he's blaming me for.

I don't no where he lives he moved. I only know were he works

This guy is definitely threatening, behaving in a criminal manner and it's not good that you don't recognise it as such. You need to report. Behaviour like this escalates.

You've already asked him to stop. Police will absolutely take it seriously. Report him, it is harassment.

I've already threatened him with the police I said this is harassment and I'm telling you to leave me alone.

Time to follow through, empty threats don't work. Take action.

It may not be explicitly threatening but it certainly is harassment. Report to police and tell them where he works. I'm willing to bet a visit from the police warning him off will make him back off.

Contact the police, and then his employers. This is harassment and illegal.

I would keep all the emails for evidence and go to the police. You can set up a filter on your email where all emails from a certain address can be sent to a specific folder. I would set up a folder specifically for him and take them to the police.

You won’t be laughed at. Seriously you won’t.

this is important, it’s harassment and it’s illegal.

Call 101 tomorrow

Can’t you just block the emails? Seems simpler.

45 emails is threatening

45 emails in one day! That on its own is enough to speak to the police.

This. Time to follow through.

Oh no, OP.

I've been to the police about someone who sent far fewer emails than that. They had spoken to him within hours and I never heard another thing.

If he had contacted me again, the police would have taken much stronger action.

Don't put up with this.