Apparently I only like 3% of men

[MollieMex]

Tongue in cheek

I have been off the dating apps for a few months and today I decided to log back in to try and get back into dating.

Since my profile had been up for a few months, I had quite a few likes from guys. I understand that this is very common for women on dating apps and I definitely don't feel like I am special.

I had a look at the profiles of the guys that liked mine and found most of them awful. In fact, after running the numbers, I only found 3% of those profiles appealing enough to consider matching with them.

THREE PERCENT!!!

Is that normal? Am I impossibly demanding? Perhaps my expectations are way off. I don't care about appearance so much, but I do care about intelligence and humour and I only like profiles where these two qualities shine through.

I guess I was made for the single life after all. Back to my friends and cats

It is not 3% of men. It is 3% of men on dating apps. Conpletely understandable.

I think that's a good thing. You'd have serious issues if you liked more than 10% of men in real life let alone in the blasted lands.

You’ll probably find that less than half the men that ‘liked’ you, don’t really like you, they just swiped right because typically that’s what men do on dating apps. I don’t mean to cause offence btw, it’s just how it is.

You say you don’t care about appearance much, but clearly you do. It’s pretty difficult to class a dating profile on tinder for example, as awful, without being drawn to their appearance and I’m not sure how you can perceive intelligence and humour from a dating app?

I’d genuinely suggest being more open to chatting to more guys, as that’s the only way you’re really going to get a sense of what they’re really about.

I'd say that sounds about right? I'm sure the quality on dating apps is pretty dire. But even in real life I don't think I'd have a connection/spark etc with more than 1 in 20 men. And that's 5%

Oh yes that's exactly what I was thinking. No way I'd potentially fancy 1 in 10 men!

I’m sorry but after all the threads I have seen on here being selective is the only way to go 🤭

I probably don't like 3% of men IRL in terms of dating. Nothing wrong with that.

Just based on attraction, walk into a coffee shop/bar/public space and ask yourself what percentage of men there are attractive enough to go on a date with, I bet it's below 3 percent, and that's assuming they are all single and before they have even opened their mouths and you realise they are not at all for you lol

That’s normal OP. I remember once paying to see all of my likes on Bumble - there were something ridiculous like about 800 and I actually swiped right on about 5 of them. But it’s same in RL. I very rarely see a man who attracts my attention.

Anyone saying you’re picky for having your own personal standards is wrong imo. We like what we like. And being selective is a good thing

On the apps, after a while it goes down to 0 %!

Ain’t that the truth. By the time I gave up on the apps i was swiping left on absolutely everyone until I ran out of men within a 50 mile radius

I always seemed to be attractive to
men who value intelligence and humour.

What I do find though, is that neither of these qualities provide any protection against being an asshole, and way too many people think intelligence and humour can be offered in lieu of being a decent human being.

It was a grim experience for me and a big waste of time. All those dull messages "wot u up to (no question mark of course) "wot you wearing" "do you do anal" urgh ....getting all angry texting you at work that you can't reply to their "I'm so horny" In the end I was fantasising about running a castration clinic! Happy and relieved to be single. 😉

Ok, so, there’s been a lot of threads recently about how shit the men are on the apps.

I actually took offence because I absolutely do not class myself as one of those, so I was curious to see what all the fuss was about….

for one hour only, I have set up a women’s account ( with permission to use the photos + a slight tweak on the editing ) to see if the men really are as bad as you say they are.

Oh my! I completely get it now!

some of my observations:

what’s with all the mirror selfies?
the gym pics in a vest?
why does every man have a full sleeve tattoo?
how come no one smiles?
zero bio
cheesy headlines
and the men claiming to be 6 foot something when they are clearly 4 inches shorter?!

note : I have not liked anyone, I’m not catfishing, although I have had 33 likes in around half an hour. That’s what I typically get in an entire month!

Same. It was a grim experience for me too.

When people say they had fun and several dates each week I think ‘how?’ I could barely mange to find one bloke a week who could string 3 words together let alone that I wanted to meet.

As you say they were either dullards, monosyllabic or talked about sex within minutes.

I’d rather stay single forever than drop my standards to that level.