Getting undressed in front of your partner?

[Shynem]

So last night I was getting into my pyjamas and I heard my DP walking upstairs. I moved quicky, whipped off my clothes and shoved my PJ's on as fast as possible in absolute panic. I then heard him walk into another room.

I then considered for a second, 'what was that about?' like why would it have been awful for him to come in. I've never given it that much thought but except for in the obvious circumstances, I don't want to be in any state of undress in front of him. Is this super weird? Pretty long term relationship, one child.

Sounds pretty odd to me, obviously you are still intimate with him I am assuming? I also assume he would also see you coming out of the shower etc?

Has something changed between you recently? Has your body changed? Are you feeling insecure about yourself naked?

It is unusual.

What are you afraid of? Is he sexually coercive or critical of your body?

It seems really odd to me, to be honest.

Yes it weird

Presumably they’ve seen you naked before, what has changed?

Are you feeling more insecure recently? I've been like this sometimes, but mostly only when I'm in the nude.

I feel awkward getting undressed in front of my boyfriend if it helps.

He's never ever done anything to make me feel uncomfortable - it's absolutely a me problem not a him problem. I'm really self conscious about a certain part of my body and that will never change no matter what he does

I've never been comfortable being undressed in front of him unless we are being intimate.

Is it only him or were you like it with previous partners?
Or was your upbringing quite body-shaming?

I'm the same if I'm not moisturised or feeling nice in my body. If I'm dressing things hang down that I'm pretty good at hiding in right positions 😂

I'd imagine i'd be like it with anyone, but I have been with him since I was 17.

That is pretty unusual.

I'm not hugely confident but I've walked around/had showers with all my exes.

Never got couples who are coy about stuff like this- we’ve been having sex for the better part of a decade, he knows what my thigh cellulite looks like and clearly doesn’t give a shit.

I'm fairly confident that when my dh looks my saggy late 40's body all he sees is the pert and skinny 18 year old me....it's the long term relationship equivalent of beer goggles. He always compliments me and is the only person I would let see me naked these days.

That's super odd. Do you have sex in the dark? If not, he's already seen it all so not sure what you are worried about.

I guess it's like, do you ever say things during sex that you wouldn't usually? It's all different when you lose your inhibitions. I've never really thought about it but I'm not really sure how to overcome it.

Gently OP I think you need to work on body confidence and address why it is you feel that way.
My DH has seen me naked and definitely in a state whilst naked and giving birth so I don't ever really think about being naked around him as its second nature.

It's actually got nothing to do with your husband.
You need to think about the values you were taught in your childhood regarding nudity and body image.
Have you ever seen your parents undressed?
Were they comfortable being naked around each other?

You probably got a lot of implicit messages telling you that it's not okay to be naked around anyone else, except for during intimacy.

That seems very odd to me. So many people have seen me get changed. In public changing room, at the beach definitely no issues in front of my partner. I'm not Kate Moss either!

It sounds odd to me. But l sleep naked anyway. I really couldn’t care less who sees me naked and certainly would expect any partner to do so.

Interesting- I don't think it is simple. I had parents who were completely fine with nudity, let me run around naked when I was little, and I occasionally saw them getting dressed, etc. My husband and I have been together for 35 years, 3 kids, and he has never ever said anything critical of my body or been even the slightest bit of a 'sex-pest'.
I definitely feel embarrassed by my body, and don't like my husband to see it, though I am fairly unembarrassed changing around friends and things like that. I don't like the appearance of my body much and feel it is not attractive, though I am thankful that it works as well as it does.