Sorry this is a bit long and maybe a bit triggering for some.
There's definitely some generational trauma in my family. Both my grandmother's were terrible mothers. My DM was abandoned by her and "fostered" by a random couple my grandmother met at a bus stop. My grandmother also gave a baby away and admittedly she never wanted to have any of her children apart from the first one. She even tried to kill herself with her children at some point.
My paternal grandmother threw knives at my dad when he was a teen.
Then my parents got married and my mother hoped for a wholesome family, but in reality my father is/was very abusive (I don't know if he's alive). He would beat my DM, and threatened her section her. My DM stayed because of money, but I also don't think she thought it was so bad. (It was, my dad would hit us for super random reasons).
Eventually my dad committed a crime, and we had to flee to "protect" him. That happened more than 20 years ago. He also blamed us for his actions. He's now in prison and I have no interest in ever visiting him. (My sister still defends him).
I ended up marrying a controlling man albeit not really abusive, my second husband did financially abused me, but at least he's changed and wants to keep improving. My sister ended up with a violent man.
Anyway if you've read all the way here Ty. I've been in therapy but I don't think it ever goes away. I watched "It ends with us" and that film triggered me, thus why I wrote this post.