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No birthday gift

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Annonymous88 · 17/02/2025 11:18

Guy i've been talking to since october and had 3 dates with just texted me a happy birthday. I feel dissapointed there was no effort to meet that week given it was also valentines. I'm not expecting huge romantic displays but a date and a box of chocolates would have been nice. He wished me happy birthday and told me to 'treat myself' to some chocolate if i had no plans on day.
Am I being unreasonable to not want to continue dating for this reason?

OP posts:
Mrsttcno1 · 17/02/2025 11:20

I think a text is fine after only 3 dates to be honest.

TwistedWonder · 17/02/2025 11:21

You’ve seen him 3 times in 4 months? Thats not really someone you’re saying is it?

Doesn’t sound like it’s anything that’s going anywhere tbh

AttilaTheMeerkat · 17/02/2025 11:21

Three dates since last October!. He’s a waste of time and I would urge you not to contact him further.

NuffSaidSam · 17/02/2025 11:23

I think it's fine given you've only seen him three times since October.

I think the more pressing issue is, why have you only seen him three times since October?

Mellowautumnmists · 17/02/2025 12:10

He wished me happy birthday and told me to 'treat myself' to some chocolate if i had no plans on day.

When someone tells you who they are, listen.

Use today to celebrate YOU and ditch this waste of space!

TheChosenTwo · 17/02/2025 12:13

I think it’s an appropriate ‘gesture’ for 3 dates in 4 months really.
It sounds more like a casual friendship than anything more.
Happy birthday - have you got anything fun planned?

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Annonymous88 · 17/02/2025 12:13

For context I matched with him mid October on the app and met first beginning december before he went to stay with family over christmas. On last 2 dates he has bought dinner

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Lavenderblossoms · 17/02/2025 12:14

3 dates and you're expecting gifts? And only 3 times in several months.... oh dear....

DaisyChain505 · 17/02/2025 12:19

You’ve only been on three dates in over 4 months. This is either extremely causal or is going no where. So either way no I don’t see why he should have got you a present.

TammyJones · 17/02/2025 12:21

Annonymous88 · 17/02/2025 12:13

For context I matched with him mid October on the app and met first beginning december before he went to stay with family over christmas. On last 2 dates he has bought dinner

Edited

That's still only 2 dates in 6 weeks.
He's not very keen.
He's probably fitting you in between other dates - so he could having 2 dates a week - but just not with you.
Ditch.

Trainr · 17/02/2025 12:32

I don’t think either of you sound that keen.

TwistedWonder · 17/02/2025 12:33

The old ‘if he wanted to he would’ applies here

If he wanted to see you and was interested, he’d move heaven and earth to let you know.

Taking 6/7 weeks to meet after matching and only managing 3 dates in 2025 - this isn’t anything worth pursuing,

Catapultaway · 17/02/2025 12:42

Annonymous88 · 17/02/2025 11:18

Guy i've been talking to since october and had 3 dates with just texted me a happy birthday. I feel dissapointed there was no effort to meet that week given it was also valentines. I'm not expecting huge romantic displays but a date and a box of chocolates would have been nice. He wished me happy birthday and told me to 'treat myself' to some chocolate if i had no plans on day.
Am I being unreasonable to not want to continue dating for this reason?

Did you get him something for valentines day?

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