When my partner and I got together, he knew I was autistic and have adhd from the start. I explained to him how I don't like physical affection. Not a lot at least and certainly not constantly. He was always respectful of it in the beginning. We had our daughter 3yrs ago.
Since she's been born he's been ramping up the physical affection. It's gotten to the point where I've tried closing myself off to him but he just pulls my hands/arms apart and says "you are MY woman and I can touch when I please!:
He cannot just give me a simple hug and a kiss once or twice a day. When he sees me he has to have his hand up my top or down my trousers. When I tell him to back away he gets angry because, it's how he shows affection, and we don't have sex as often as he would like.
A bit of story about our situation. I work, I come home, I cook, I clean, I make sure all the kids have everything they need for school/play group the next day, I clean some more and go to bed. He doesn't work. He mostly sits in his pyjamas scrolling tiktok or playing his PlayStation (he's nearly 40). So I come home from work to all that. And he wonders why I'm to tired and stressed for intimacy.
He also for 95% of the day, spends it scolding me and the kids for everything and nothing... like all we have to do is say something in a tone he doesn't like and he will go off on us. He moans about everything all the time. He sits and burps and farts all the time. Literally all the time and he has to describe it to me and all he does in the bathroom.
He doesn't provide for our family. He is an arsehole during the day. And then expects me to be turned on when it comes to bed time and expects me to want sex and dress up for him.
He constantly says "I'm the alpha! I'm in charge of this family!" Yet I've never been any more in my masculine energy as I am right now.
Literally I came out the bathroom a moment ago, I'm heading to bed as our youngest is really sick and I didn't get much sleep last night. I just come out the bathroom as he's just come up the stairs. He sees me and instantly puts his hand up my top to grope me and starts looking what I'm wearing on my bottom half. I said to him he doesn't need to grope me each and every time. And he gets angry with me and starts making me feel bad for not being intimate with him and romantic (I've never been romantic ever in my life)
He is never wrong. He's always right. He has a victim mentality and a superiority complex. I'm attracted to him physically but mentally he repulses me. But I'm being made to feel like a bad person