How do I end it nicely?

[Scuttlehar]

Just that. We actually split last March. I initiated the split and by as my birthday was in November he texted me a happy birthday, by Christmas, again, nice message and wishing me a nice new year. I politely replied back and left it like that. Come Valentines Day and I receive a message telling me his feelings were always sincere, he thanked me for the three years we’d spent together, etc. The gist of the text was he’d like us to get back together, that much I know.

This has shaken my boat a bit but I’m enjoying my own space and don’t want anyone at the moment. He’s a great guy, but I don’t want to hurt him.

How should I respond?

Say nothing

@JohnofWessex Ok, you mean just not reply to the text message?

Block him.

He's been testing the waters for almost a year. Kindest thing would be not to be present for this. He'd be better off grieving rather than hoping.

Be direct. And then understand that although he may be a 'great guy' he didn't actually listen to your 'no'. Which means you don't owe him anything.

I agree. If it was the other way around, then that would be it. Do you think reply back or ignore the message? If reply, what do I put?? I’m hopeless at these things..

Just ignore it, you've been polite enough. Don't block... yet.

I'd either not reply, or just thumbs up messages. Thumbs up is sort of code for 'received and understood'. But also widely understood to be the absolute minimum response. Cool but not cold.

He’s has sent appropriate polite and not too frequent messages
the nice thing to do is be clear

“ i have fond memories of you, but there is no doing back for me only forward in a new direction, I won’t be in touch again, I wish you and your family all the very best “

This is perfect