A few years ago, my partner (of 10 years, we don't live together) and I went to his female colleague's birthday party. He was very attentive to her, they were sitting away from everyone else lots during the evening. He was stuck to her hip. When I went to the loo, they were dancing together (the only ones on the dancefloor) and when she saw me she tugged at his elbow to get off the dance floor. When I went to sit with them at some point, they moved away. Anyway. Bottom line I felt embarrassed, and uncomortable I was drunk and angry and told him things like of all the men to behave that way it had to be him. He told me he would not have done anything with her husband there. He gave me the silent treatment for the hour journey back and the rest of the day. When I tried to talk about the evening again he shouted at me and told me we are never talking about this again. Today I was triggered by a picture painting she gave him on his herroom wall. Eventually, I asked him if there had ever been anything between them. He started calling me insane 6 times, jealous, and I don't want him to have female friends. I have never felt concern about his boundaries until that party. My question to him was what would he have done if her husband hadn't been there. He told me he doesn't want to see me. I guess I was triggered because we have never discussed that night, he dismissed me, shut me down and piled things on to me. What are your thoughts?