Been with DP for 7 years. Good relationship. Stable and drama free. We have loads of fun together. My DC love him.
He also has DC. I share mine with ex who is closeby and we have a good set up. DPs kids don't come to his often now (mum moved away after divorce and kids now teens busy social lives etc don't want to spend weekends at dads 2 hours away).
He rents. I own. He earns more than me. We don't share any finances but he is generous financially.
My house is too small for him to move into.
His rent is £££ and he spends 4-5 nights a week at mine so it's wasted money. His rent is due to go up again later this year.
Lots of (mutual) chat about me selling my house and us buying somewhere bigger (with me ringfencing my equity) but as time goes on nothing is actually happening to start this process. I've asked about preserving our free weekends to clear/declutter my house etc (needs doing before putting it on market) but instead he books us weekends away and doesn't initiate actually doing anything to start this process.
My house is small but it's plenty big enough for me and my DC. I can afford the mortgage on my own.
WIBU to just be passive now and stop pushing as he it's looking like he doesn't want this enough to make any sort of real effort? I feel like why should I, as the one risking more, be having to push him to action. He has WAY more to gain from this move than I do.
I want to live with him but I'm not desperate for it. Have been through the mill in the past and am very much a realist when it comes to romantic relationships.
AIBU and uncaring?