The old chestnut - Sexless marriage

[Straightouttaclacton]

You’ve hade the chat, you want to, they’re not interested, how does it make you feel about them and the future?

I wouldn't have lasted 14 months, quite honestly

Hey @Comeupandseememakemesmile its all great advice / shared experiences. It really helps to hear other people’s experiences. It’s a lonely place to be when you don’t want to speak to friends or relatives about such a private subject. Not something you plan on happening when starting out. Hope you’re ok too x

How old are you op and how long have you been together. I'm 63, 13 years together ... its depressing!

I”m 55, 30+ years in.

You got a lot of years left 🤷🏼‍♀️
so hard not to drift and accept everything as the ‘norm’ or that’s just how we are.
I knew I was really in trouble when I looked at my adult kids relationships and thinking I really want that !
I agree with a previous poster I thought if I didnt do it by 55 I might not - there’s always something coming up that will stop you, time to be resolute maybe, 1 way or another. And maybe think about whether you could love again, in every sense of the word
I didn’t know if I’d ever have chance again but I absolutely knew I could - and now know I can

This is my second time. Left first husband at 49, same thing. History is now repeating itself. I am overweight, size 18. I guess my bank balance and the life I provide is more attractive than me!

I do think constantly about splitting, but I made a big mistake in liquidating my property assets and they are now cash assets ... so I think marital assets. I think I will just suck it up, too late for me.

Agree

Depends. We are 13yrs in. Just married. Me early 50s...him late 50s. Remarriage for both. We were frantic with sex until about a year ago on his part whilst organising a bloody wedding! I'd be lying if I said i didn't rethink things along the way! I'd been a bit the same through menopause. We knew that's what it was though. Just as I came through that...he started. So unlike him. It's been really difficult but he recognised it was an issue. Been referred to hospital for tests. His testosterone levels have dropped through the floor so at least we know its not physical aversion or nothing and we do love each other a lot, so hopefully some help will be given to him as we both don't want a sexless marriage...which has been really important to realise.