First date in forever.. help!

[cluelessgirly]

So I'm going on a first date with someone from online dating tomorrow, it's the first date I've been on in a couple of years. I'm 30, we're going for drinks.

What sort of questions are good to ask? I'm not bad at making general conversation but I don't want to come away thinking 'damn, I wanted to know this and this' but didn't perhaps think of it at the time?

You know sometimes if people say 'oh did you ask them this' and you think damn that would be good to ask..

What are some good questions to really get to know if you are compatible on a first date?

Thank you x

Sorry no advice on questions really. I would just say don’t overthink it. I remember being in a similar situation and I didn’t think about questions to ask. I’m not sure you’ll know if you’re compatible on the first date, that sounds like far too much pressure. And is a bit much for a first date! You’ll just know if you want to see him again.
I’d just relax, have fun and see if there’s a ‘spark’. Plenty of time for all the ‘compatible’ questions at a later date if you hit it off.

You're not going to work out if you're compatible on a first date - you'll be able to tell if you fancy them and have enough in common to want to see them again.

Don't overthink it, I know its scary dating again after a while but just have fun, have some light chat and see how you feel. Good luck 😊

Another one here who says don’t overthink and pre plan too much. Just think of it as meeting a friend for a nice chat and let it flow naturally

You won’t know if you’re compatible after one date but you’ll know if there’s something there to make you interested in seeing them again or not.

Hi OP. I didn't use the questions to see if we were compatible. It was more so to fill the gaps if there was any lull in conversation! Things like where is the best place you've been on holidays, what's the best restaurant you've ever been to. Or if they talked about something interesting over text ask them to explain it more in person. Rarely had to use them though, the conversation will generally just flow. If it doesn't then it'll wrap up pretty quickly!

I agree. Don't over think it. You don't want to sound like you're interviewing him.

Maybe find out if you have much in common by asking what he loves doing in his spare time, to discover if he's arty or sporty, a party animal or stay at home type.

I'd try to check through casual conversation whether we shared similar values politically and morally.

Have fun.

First dates are really just to check that he actually exists, looks like his pics/profile and isn’t totally awful. Sadly the chances of it going any further are woefully low, so keep expectations in line. You have to meet/kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince on online dating sites so chances are he’s not the one, no matter how well your chats went online.

So no pressure, plan to keep it brief - one drink/coffee and then just say it was good to meet you, i have to get back for the dog/delivery/kids’ sports etc.

You are under absolutely no obligation to stay longer, arrange a second date or continue chatting. This is purely a pre-date to see if you want to go on a proper one. Good luck! Enjoy. Be safe.

The first time you meet someone face to face it's really about figuring out if you want to see them again. Go with the flow and ask open ended questions, let him talk too, in the end you can decide if you want to meet again. Your gut feeling will tell you a lot. Enjoy!

I second this 🫶🏼
just be yourself, it’s all about just seeing if you get on well enough initially to see each other again.
if you both decide on a second date, you’ll naturally have questions to ask you are intrigued about as you will want to know about them. At the moment they are a stranger so work out if you like their company/energy and have an attraction towards them and like how they come across.

dont stress, be yourself, enjoy it, no pressure! Have fun x

How did it go?

Why did you answer your own question? Did you forget to change your username?😂

OMG I didn’t remember or realise this was my own post! Wow.. tired mum brain or what 🤣🤣🤣
I read the post and thought aww.. I know this feeling!

so to answer my own thread.. LOOL..

it went well, enjoyed his company, said we would see each other again and then he messaged saying he still liked an ex so we left it there and I haven’t bothered with online dating since 😂 but it was good to get a first date out the way and realise it’s not as worrying as I thought..

Ha ha this is like the buggy thread where someone posted asking if anyone had a specific buggy, no one answered, then three years later she answered herself 😂.

That’s hilarious 🤣🤣🤣🤣 honestly if my username doesn’t hit the nail on the head then I don’t know what does.. hahahaha

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