Grouchy, ill tempered, sour DH

[justsofedupnow]

I’ve realised it’s been weeks since I’ve been able to have a conversation with DH. I can’t remember the last time. Any conversation we have is just sarcastic comebacks and cynical mutterings. I really miss having someone to actually talk to.

This is a miserable way to live
Speak to a solicitor a nd get copies of all relevant documents. Then sit him down and tell you have had enough and he needs to change or you will divorce him. Life is too short to be stuck in this situation. Good luck

Is it new/sudden behaviour?

Has he had some sort of MH episode? How old is he? Could it be Alzheimers or something similar? Could he be cheating and trying to get you to break it off?

If he's generally a grumpy git though, and perhaps you've only just noticed just HOW grumpy he is, or perhaps he's got worse, or your tolerance for it had got lower, then I agree with PP - get your accounts in order and leave. It really is no way to live the rest of your life. How lonely!

Tell him how you feel. See what he does, if anything. There could be something that’s worrying him so at least give him the chance to open up. If he won’t talk about it, it’ll only get worse for you and you’ll know you have a decision to make.

I know how wearing it is to be around someone whose negativity drags you down. My ex was also completely selfish and barely noticed I existed so it was an easy choice to leave when it came to it. He wasn’t always like that, his grumpiness was quite funny and tongue in cheek to start with. Then it became negative and critical. No matter what I said he just got worse and bottled things up, affecting his behaviour towards me (not others though).

You deserve to have your needs met and having companionship and conversation is important.