Background I have 3 teenagers, partner has one young child (9). Been together 4 years, don’t live together and only get to see each other few days a week due to his work and he has child every weekend.
I’ve been dealing with many things, I lost my father very recently and had to deal with the aftermath. Partner very unsupportive, unable to come to anything with me including say goodbye to him before he died as landed on his weekend. (He could have asked family for a few hours but didn’t)
fast forward to now, my birthday his has no money (no problem) said candlelight dinner and for me to stay, nice day out following day. This was for mid-week. Roll on 2 days before my Bday I had arranged my kids to be covered, lifts to and from school. He cancels me, no consulting just told me. Child’s mum has taken a shift so won’t be happening.
it was the one thing I was so looking forward too, yes great dad and I’m all for child first. But this isn’t in my head child first was dump me and ex first he could have said I’ve got plans, take it as holiday if you have to work or make other plans
would you been pissed off - this has happened loads but this time it was my bday and after horrible things I’ve been through I felt I needed a bit of kindness
what would you have done?