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Lonely lone parent

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MicroMallow · 12/02/2025 19:21

Any tips or advice? What do you do to help with the loneliness of being a lone parent? I have no social life as my kids are with me full time I do have friends but they aren't in the same situation so don't see them often. Would love to date and meet someone but dating is out of the question as no free time and I have wracked my brains thinking of a way to make it work but I can't. (seems most in my situation introduce kids early on but I don't want to do that) but I'm finding the evenings increasingly difficult all I do is look after kids I find myself wishing their childhood away and them growing up so I can get some life back of my own and not just be "mum" but I realise that sounds awful but I feel sad I'm missing so many years. What do others in this situation do to help feel less alone? Obviously if you are happy single this won't apply and I was for the first few years.

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ChihuahuaKeeper · 20/09/2025 18:10

I might have missed a bit, so apologies....why does your ex not pay child maintenance?!
Is there another parent who could swap babysitting with you. They babysit for you, then you returns the favour?
I'm glad you have support on here, and empathy. I can't offer much advice other than you needn't wish your kids lives away, as it flies by on its own. Big hugs.

Usernamenope · 20/09/2025 22:04

Just wanted to offer some solidarity OP. I'm lucky in that I have family nearby at the moment who can look after dc now and then. Not for long though as I am moving soon. I'm very glad that I left my ex, but I was completely unprepared for how hard it would be to be a lone parent!

I think working part time helps (not WFH though) and booking online clubs, some are free or quite cheap and generally casual so not an issue if there are interruptions from the kids. It just offers a connection to other people.

I haven't resolved the dating as a lone parent conundrum though. Can't understand how people even make time for it. The only thing I can think of is getting a better job or a side hustle and earning more to pay for childcare!

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