Is this a crazy obsession?

[Camiknickers]

A little background - I am 34, so an age I want to be finding someone to settle down with, make a family. My last relationship - I can't call it a 'serious' one - was with someone I found out after a few months had been lying to me about virtually everything, which crushed me for a while. I picked myself off the floor, moved on - but I've been struggling to find someone who is really right for me.
Then late last year I was on holiday in Egypt, I met a local guy who worked for the holiday company. It feels like I love him - I want him - but I know there's no future in it. He will always want to stay in Egypt, marry a Muslim woman, look after his family. I want to see him again, but he even feels uncomfortable about staying in a hotel with me if I visit, as this is apparently forbidden between unmarried people there. I asked a (guy) friend if he would come with me to Egypt - it would sort of make it easier if it looked like I was with someone else, but he flat out told me I was crazy.
So now I have just booked to go anyway, feels like I have just got to see him again, talk with him properly.
So am I crazy? Is scratching this itch going to make it go away, or make it worse?

You probably are crazy to do this, yes, but you can scratch your itch if you want. You know nothing's going to come of it relationship wise so you're essentially going over for a holiday fling. Can't say I've never done that myself!

I will ask you to be careful because moving to the UK does still appeal to many Egyptians - and while it can work out, it rarely does.

Has your Egyptian friend discouraged you from going back? It's hard to tell from your OP.

You realise he probably has holiday romances with lots of foreign women? It's partly how he earns his money.

Don't waste your time. I know you feel like there is something there but there is not. These guys in holiday resorts will be nice to everyone.

I had a serious Egyptian boyfriend many years ago for 2 years. They are really less tolerant and flexible than many of the other Arab nationalities. Comments on clothes, friends, interests etc I was a secret unless I wanted to convert and marry him. I later found out he had a secret wife back home all along and has lied to me Don't waste your time.

Google Tunisian love rats forum or watch holiday romance scam videos on YouTube. It isn't genuine

You are wasting your time..be realistic OP, he will have a new 'fling' every week! He will also lie to you about this. Please get yourself tested for STDs.

I met my DH at 34 after aggressively online dating for 3 years so feel I have the credentials to be blunt because I know the loneliness, the horrors, the mind games and alllll the bullshittery that comes with trying to meet a decent person who you connect with.

THIS IS CRAZY .
your time is so precious right now - stop wasting it and you money on something that’s going nowhere and is going to hurt you more than it ever makes you feel good.

you have no future at all. Ever. It’s love tourism.

this man cannot make you happy and you don’t have a future with him, block and delete.

Honestly, OP, this isn’t ’scratching an itch h’, this is an act of self-harm! You’ve got it really bad if you actually asked a male friend to accompany you as an alibi! What were you expecting him to do, sleep in the bath?

In the kindest possible way, I think you’ve lost the plot OP!

If I were you I would cut contact and work on why I felt I loved someone so quickly who I barely knew, had no future with for more than one insurmountable reason and was actively putting me off coming to see them….!

Yes crazy I’m afraid. Just not real in any way. The only real thing is your frustration and need right now (which is very human). The thing with the guy is a total illusion.

Yes... This is a crazy obsession.
Why, at your age, are you still doing this? You say you want a serious commitment, and yet you waste your time with men who aren't available to commit to you.
Saying you want something isn't going to make it happen. It means acting accordingly, not following your every whim.

Don't go. Quite simply, you know there's no future. Even if he genuinely loves you (unlikely for a bloke in a holiday romance) there are just too many barriers in your way. It's too complicated.
I'm not going to trot out the tired old cliché that he just wants to move to the UK, because I don't think that's always the case. However, it's just too difficult.