What do you consider long distance regarding dating?

[TheGreenNewt]

What do you consider long distance and not feasible long term if you are after a monogamous relationship?

For those that use Hinge or Tinder what do you set your distance and age filters to? I've used Hinge in the past but got no likes with filters on and if I set distance to 30 miles it would soon run out of men near my age which is 40. I am looking for life partner but very few profiles tick that box and then you get profiles 'figuring out my relationship type' or 'open to children' at 45 plus if your a man.

I don't really think OLD is for me because I can't judge from a picture and don't want to waste my time on men who I wouldn't look at twice IRL.

Also I find being on too many apps at once is overload. Does anyone else find this?

Sometimes it's easier being single and letting things happen without actively looking. I'm happily single and a man isn't going to make my life any happier. Not sure I'd want to live with anyone again either. I am too independent and like my own space and company too much to compromise for someone who isn't all that wonderful lol

I’m no longer on the apps but o originally set my distance as 15 miles and got through pretty much every man in that range within a decent match 🤣

I moved it further out but it was dependant on what direction they were in. Heading a bit further out then 50 miles could be less than an hour but going towards London or round the m25, then 25/30 miles could be a couple of hours or more

Depends on your surroundings. 20 miles when you live in SE England is vastly different from 20mile in NE Scotland.

Also, if you are willing to travel for a while and potentially move in future.

I've done long distance twice, both were over 300 miles initially. But after a few years in each case we moved (or had a solid plan) to be closer/moved in with each other. I wouldn't have kept the relationship going if we were not both on the same page about eventually moving to be closer.
I fine long distance initially actually suits me. I enjoy my own space but can also easily fall into the trap of spending every day with someone very quickly if we already love close to each other. Which isn't healthy for me.

Mine was a 45 minute drive each way

In the end it was to much for me to be practical

It also did not help me having the kids 7 days a week and then not wanting to see my partner

Split up over it and now I have a new partner 5 minutes a way

Was not even looking and they asked me

It is so much easier, I can just pop over to see them rather than having to arrange childcare

Though it really depends on your personal life as in where is to far

How much time do you have to travel?

I won’t bother if more than 10 miles! Probably why I’m single still 🤣

Bloody hell, if my radius was less than 50 miles on Tinder I would have ended up with really slim pickings 😂. Semi rural NW England. I once dated someone 2.5hrs away which was a bit tough but generally manageable.

@Donotpanicoknowpanic I don't really want to spend my free time travelling far with people I've never met personally. I think 30 miles maximum is my limit from my home area.