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Am I overthinking things

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TheRareHare · 10/02/2025 12:34

I don’t know if I am overthinking this or being over the top or what but long story short me and my partner had been split up for months and months but still living together and he had found out I had been speaking to someone in which I had said I liked him but not romantically and I found out he had been speaking to a girl he had known for 13yrs but this time he said he had felt some connection there with her.

We did end up getting back to working on things shortly after , I’ve blocked the guy I spoke too just out of respect for the relationship really and just didn’t want him thinking anything , I didn’t need this guy on my phone anyways. He said he’d block this girl ages ago or at least tell her we are back together and he’s working on his relationship with me now but he hasn’t done any of these things at all. He’s said to me just because she’s not blocked doesn’t mean he’s speaking to her but when I bring it up it’s always him saying why is she always on my mind etc etc he seems to get a little frustrated so I leave the conversation as that and try to be as polite as possible but it makes me uncomfortable that she’s just there still. It makes it hard for me to believe they go from “talking” to not talking at all out of nowhere. I don’t understand how he can’t do one simple thing just to make me feel at ease I don’t understand why he isn’t doing any of these things he said he would

OP posts:
Wolfiefan · 10/02/2025 12:35

You split up. You move out. You may have been working on things. He wasn’t. Time to move on.

TheRareHare · 10/02/2025 12:56

I wish I could move out myself lol but I can’t as tenancy is under my name so I’m stuck in this place really and have 2 kids also

OP posts:
CarliLove35 · 10/02/2025 12:58

Ask him to move out. Be single for a while and have fun. Life shouldn't be this complicated.

averylongtimeago · 10/02/2025 13:00

So the tenancy is in your name?
Tell him it's not working and he moves out.
Then change the locks.

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