Upset by BFs behavior at start

[Conflicted12348]

I've been seeing my bf since May. We started with weekly dates. About half way through June my bf deleted his dating profile telling me he was sick of online dating. I deleted mine soon after. In July in front of his friends he casually described us as "in a relationship" and his friend described us as "loved up". However we didn't have a conversation about exclusivity until August.

I've recently been contacted by a woman who found me through my bfs social media. She sent me screenshots of chats she was having with my bf in late July. Turns out he had another profile with no pics up. He was clearly trying to turn the conversation sexual with her.

She asked him why she hadnt seen him online for a while and he said he WAS seeing someone (to me this implies it ended when it hadnt). He also said some things that I find hurtful though I'm not sure why as they weren't exactly cruel. The woman quizzed him further and he eventually admitted he was currently seeing someone but described it as " a few dates with the same girl" and "nothing to tell my mother about yet".

My bf says he was using the second profile to check something (this is actually likely true but I can't say what as would be outing) and just got chatting to her as they'd chatted before and we weren't exclusive which is true.

But I'm very unhappy about the whole thing. Am I being unreasonable?

You're being unreasonable to call him your bf. Why are you with this loser?

you are not being unreasonable in the slightest. Dump him

You’re being unreasonable wasting your time with this lying twat

"described it as " a few dates with the same girl" and "nothing to tell my mother about yet".

That's hurtful, IMO. It also contradicts what he said to his pals. IMO, he's keeping his options open and potentially, you're the back up plan. Tell him what you found, block and delete. You've no time to spend with this tyre-kicker.

If I'd found out then I definitely would but it's gotten more serious since. I'll still probably end it. I think you're right he was keeping his options open at the start and maybe it's just me but I thought he was excited about be at 3 months.

Get rid of him; he sounds like a complete twat.

More serious in what way?

We're official since August and spend a lot of time together. Sleep over 3-4 nights a week.

You're still with him then, despite what's happened?

Social media is so prevalent in everything now that most relationships would fail if we don’t adapt and evolve along with it.

As long as there was no sexual contact, I would not be bothered. We do not own each other and we still enjoy some level of freedom.

Dump.

And raise the bar.