How often did/do you have sex when pregnant?

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My husband and I have fairly similar sex drives albeit mine would be slightly higher. Obviously pregnancy changes hormones, libido etc and I’m genuinely wondering do people find they’ve had more, less or about the same amount of sex during pregnancy compared to when you’re not pregnant?

my sex drive has gone down slightly whereas husband can’t keep his hands off me - ironically when I feel my least attractive!

Up to about 16 weeks - less than usual because I felt like death on a plate and once had to stop to vomit.

Approx 16-30 weeks - more than usual, libido went up and I would orgasm more easily too.

30ish weeks onwards - less, because I was really big and awkward and my pelvis hurt.

I had a very high risk pregnancy and was advised by my consultant not to even look at my husband penis! So, never! Not once! It was terrible!

Pretty much daily. I was quite young though! I'd be very tired if I was pregnant now.

Dc1, quite a lot all the way through. Dc2, also quite a lot but hardly any after 35 weeks. I was massive with dc2 and grumpy and uncomfortable. Getting me to go out for a coffee was hard enough 😂, let alone sex

Not at all. I’d had a lot of miscarriages before and we were both terrified so nothing. Squat. Nada.

Absolutely none at all.. same as a PP, had 2 previous miscarriages so didn't want to risk anything. Then had a low lying placenta and was told not to

barely any. i found it really painful for some reason

In the very early stages, a lot! My libido went through the roof and everything was so sensitive. Possibly increased blood flow to the area? I don't know. Then at 20 weeks I found out I had low lying placenta and was advised not to have sex again or there's a risk of damaging it.

So that was it until after I delivered and then another 6-8 weeks recovery time. It was a long time!

Loads more than normal right up until my due date.

Twice- and he covered his eyes once. When I was all skinny and busty post pregnancy and he wanted me again, well, it took a long time for our relationship to recover. Getting annoyed again just thinking about it now.

First pregnancy - hardly ever at all, maybe once or twice in the whole pregnancy

Second pregnancy - had very odd surge of hormones and was as horny as a teenage boy for a few weeks 😂

My libido went mental, like proper through the roof, when I was pregnant! But at the same time I got very worried about (probably entirely imaginary) risks (i experienced this thing whereby contractions when I orgasmed were much, much stronger - like my uterus went into this weird kind of spasm - I looked it up on the internet and apparently it is A Thing. It made me feel nervous about having orgasms, tho I seem to remember I didn't entirely resist. I seem to recall the weird uterus response thing didn't occur in the later stages or pregnancy - only early on.).

I can't remember the details, but I think we had a fair amount of sexual intimacy, but rarely PIV? For the reasons stated above.

But there is no right or wrong. Don't worry what other people do - just do what feels right for you guys......

And congrats on the pregnancy!

Never!

I was pretty queasy during the first trimester.. towards the end I started to fancy it but my partner didn't.

Mine drive went into overdrive. Couldn’t get enough. Until I was absolutely huge and I had chronic PGP and could barely walk. But that was quite late on and I always gave birth early too. Whatever is normal for you is normal for you. Don’t worry about it.

First pregnancy: several times a week. I felt amazing.

Second time with a toddler: hardly ever and I feel like an exhausted whale!

I gave birth a month ago and we didn't have sex once during my pregnancy. Our Midwife told me it was perfectly safe for us to have sex but, after taking so long for me to conceive in the first place, my husband and I were just terrified to do anything that might jeopardise our baby and, while we knew logically it was perfectly safe, neither of us felt comfortable with penetrative sex so, for the sake of our anxiety levels, we just didn't do it. We still had plenty of cudles and physical contact during the pregnancy so it wasn't too difficult. I never got particularly big, even in the final weeks of pregnancy, however, my consultant advised us against sex from about 35 weeks as our baby was in a transverse position and she was concerned that sex could induce early labour, that was the only time a medical professional actually advised against it.

We didn’t stop having sex until about 2 weeks before I had my section. Mostly cos he was worried it would kick labour off early! 😂

I couldn’t wait to get back to our sex life post partum, but we did wait until the doc gave me the all clear.

To be fair we’re still having sex every day. I suffered a lot with thrush and UTIs in my first pregnancy which put a dampener on things but feel much better this time. Husband has gone back to the gym and is looking great atm. We had sex right upto my waters broke last time so hoping I’m the same this time. That said the exhaustion is real with a toddler running about

Nothing. Not even vv early as we had ivf and that process sucked. So lots of nothing as we tried a lot.

Varied hugely with different stages and different pregnancies, but if no one else has already said, it should definitely be exactly the amount you want, whether multiple times a day or literally not at all.

Sorry to be all serious but I feel strongly about this and it's important to practice 'no thanks' before you have the baby as after you may have much less energy etc.

Congratulations on your pregnancy! 😍

Another in the complex pregnancy club that that had none whatsoever - and a multiple month long hiatus post pregnancy during recovery. Once healed, after a few teenage-like fumbles where hubby tested the waters to see if I was game or not, we soon got back into the swing of things.

No sex so far. Feel uncomfortable and too much anxiety as this pregnancy has progressed. Multiple misscarriges and surgeries leading up to it didn't help either. I'm not missing it. But DP is.