Do men get a better deal from blended families than women?

[CactusSammy]

Lighthearted - just curious of others experiences really.

I have 2 kids, and have been single for a very long time. Been on a few dates previously, but the men I have met just seem to want someone to look after their kids at the weekend while they laze around. They also seem to be looking for someone to wash their pants and make their dinners, and generally don't want to bring anything to the table.

Im really not up for any of that, and would rather stay single (unless of course the man in question is Chris Hemsworth, then it would be a whole other thread! 🤣).

Perhaps I've been unlucky, and obviously it isnt all men, but that's my experience, and many of my friends say the same thing.

So, do blended families really work, and do men get a better deal from them than women?

Seems to be the case.

Some men are very good at spotting vulnerable, insecure, lonely women and then grooming them to be housekeepers/unpaid nanny. Its mind blowing what some women put up with to avoid being alone.

Also what amazes me is how women take on these losers and then set about turning their ex/mother of their existing kids into a villain and enter into some long running power struggle, whilst the man just sits in the middle playing the victim and doing sod all. They really can't see the deadbeat dad is the one responsible!

As the saying goes, there's a sucker born every minute.

Going by the posts on here, that seems to be the case. I'm a single parent and the few dates I've had with other single parents, I kind of feel as though I'm being interviewed for a homemaker role 😂 What a turn off!

Though realistically I may feel like this because I earn well and have the freedom to be dating for 'fun' - I'm not looking for someone to split bills with or because childcare would be easier. I can imagine people - especially single mothers, who often have sacrificed career moves etc to be their for their children - may well be motivated by that as well.

I’m older and my DD is an adult now but it doesn’t change.

Most of the older single men out there are looking for a nurse with a purse to wipe their arse in their dotage.

I’d say that no, it depends on the situation….. however going by most men, and how awful so many of them are - then yes, this is probably true for most 🤨

😂 this made me laugh!

Yes. A million percent.

Absolutely. Particularly if she has money.

The number of time waster men I met who reckoned on me being a purse and loco parentis is high.

Don't entertain them. I pity the women that do.

How could a thread like this possibly be lighthearted?

And of course they do! They have TWO women sharing up a bunch of the parenting they should be doing

I think men get a better deal in ALL relationships

My most recent experience is that my ex since last month of 6mnths didn't think he would have to try hard at work because I was a "career girl". When he walked out of his job he even thanked me for sticking by him before I had absorbed any of it. Then he tried to come on a work trip which he said was fine as he had is UC being paid that day. Anyway he didn't come on the work trip and thankfully we are no longer together. I'm convinced he wanted to be a house husband.

I think it's fairly obvious that men benefit from blended families more than women do.

It's not something I'd ever agree to. HA no fucking way. You look after your kids and I'll look after mine.

I had a man message me 2 days ago on Instagram. I'm a chatty type so replied. Within 24 hours he'd told me
"you have a good heart" (he knows basically nothing about me)
"I want to make you my wife"
"I want you to care for my mother and daugther for me"

Clearly he thinks he'd get all the benefits of a blended family. Quite why he thinks I want to move 200 miles away from my parents to look after his mum and young child when my own DC are now adults I don't know.

I have absolutely no interest in looking after, housing, cooking for, dropping off or picking up, doing laundry for, holidaying with, listening to, paying for or parenting someone else's kids.

I don't know why any women agree to it. For love? Naaaah. Not worth it.

Lots of those stories on here. The woman can’t see that she is twisting herself into knots over issues that the dad should be managing in the first place.

That seems to be the majority of cases. I do know a single mum who married a barrister though and he put both her kids through private school. She was on a low income job.

Dating a man with kids has always been a hard no for me. I just know it’s something I wouldn’t want to take on and if it came to it would rather be single.