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Friendship not working out as time goes on

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ThePerkyCoralPoet · 09/02/2025 12:06

I’m wondering if a friendship is becoming too much. I feel myself distancing slightly.
i have known her for five years. The reason I feel guilty for doing this to her is because she helped me when it came to getting a job in her exact position when she left the company and also listened to me complain regularly whenever worked together before and after work about how bad the leadership was.
buf as time has gone on she seems to just get more selfish in conversations. So last Monday she texted me a whole paragraph about her tonsillitis and how she walked into a glass door. I replied asking after her wellbeing. She ignored it. Then she text me asking how I am on Friday. I responded with the fact that I’m really unwell. Work has been extremely busy. The whole response I recieved it return was just all linked to her life then. So totally ignored the fact she could have asked about my wellbeing too. Talked about the orchestra performance she watched and the meal she had with her husband and how she now fully recovered from tonsillitis.
im just getting a bit worn down by it lately. Part of my wants to say something. The other part of me hates confrontation and is just choosing distance

OP posts:
BeeKind1 · 09/02/2025 16:10

I’m a firm believer that people come in and out of our lives when needed. It's natural as people grow and change that friendships grow or change with you. If you don't want to save the friendship, put in as much as effort as you get and you won't feel resentment. Then you'll also find out if the friend is willing to put the effort in too.

Mary46 · 09/02/2025 16:13

Op feel that way too. People more selfish now. I cut back they did too.. sometimes I cant be assed with it all ha.

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