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I feel hurt

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halloweenqueen1919 · 08/02/2025 09:54

I'm a 40 year old woman with a DH and small DC.

I've always had a semi close relationship with DM but have come to realise that I do all the running and it's starting to get to me. I feel unloved and a bit neglected tbh which feels silly for someone of my age.

Both my parents are in their mid 60's and are beginning to experience health issues. I've been as supportive as possible. Taking them to appointments, calling, getting shopping, having them to stay etc.

My DC and I have been unwell recently. I needed lots of hospital tests and so has one of my DC. I've told DM in advance these things were happening and have received minimal interest at best.

A phone call a week after my tests and then a one minute conversation regarding the results and absolutely no mention of my DC ongoing hospital treatment.

I'm hurt and it's making me defensive. Every phone call is a monologue about herself and her troubles with a cursory nod to me and y family.

I recently had an experience which was huge for me and took a lot to overcome. When I excitedly messaged I got a well done and then the conversation moved on to my sister.

So fed up. Not sure what I'm looking for from this!

OP posts:
Eyesopenwideawake · 08/02/2025 09:58

It's not uncommon, sadly. Time to start pulling back, just slowly and making your family with your DH and children. You can't make her change but you can manage how you allocate your time and resources. Maybe be less available to do stuff for them - they are mid 60's, not mid 80's!

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