Man’s gone silent

[OneDaringDreamer]

Hi there
some advice please?
I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend 17 months. It’s been really good we’ve done loads of stuff holidays etc.
we had a get together last weekend and had my family over for drinks at his place. We then went out dancing.
he was in a funny mood we had words and he went home. It wasn’t anything serious and not even that heated.
when we all went back home about an hour later and I went to see him in his bedroom and he turned on me telling me we were over and not to call him babe. He snarled at me as well.
i said he was being ridiculous.
next morning he never said a word to me.
my family asked him to join us shopping and he refused.
we went home and I never heard from him that day.
i text him in the morning asked if he meant what he said. We talked and he said he loved me and I’m his best friend I said the same. We had a normal week of communication and it was usual. Until Friday he never text or contacted me all day.
i also noticed that he’s taken our photo off his social. Swapping it for his kids, which usually is completely fine but not really good timing after the last week.
help please on what to do next

Block his number, and never look back. This isn’t the last time he will do this to you!

I started typing questions to try to analyse his feelings then I thought FUCK THAT.

Get rid. Rude bastard - who does he think he is?!

It sounds like he's one of those guys who 'used to be indecisive but now isn't so sure'.🙄

Sorry OP but I'll bet any money there's someone else on the scene.

Just ditch this blow hot/blow cold idiot.

You deserve better than this. x

Leave him be, doesn't sound like he wants to continue the relationship anymore, and not worth your time and energy, to try and save it.

Sounds like he likes all the attention on him and resents the presence of others who might dilute his importance. The performance the night your family came over was to make sure you remained in his thrall instead of enjoying their company.

Pathetic. Dump him.

What was the disagreement about?

Don't phone , don't chase . Give him a week to get back to you ( he might be having a crisis of some sort , or the need to sort out his head ) I'm giving him the benefit of doubt.
If still nothing . Block without trying again to contact .

They have been together 17 months, and she loves him. Dump him by all means, but just ghosting and blocking is not really the way an adult in a relationship of that length should go about it!

Just leave. After that behaviour why did you even ask if he meant what he said. He showed you he meant it by his behaviour.

Thank you for all your responses.
you all seem to say the same things.
my mum also says to not contact him as I haven’t done anything wrong.
his friend came and joined us at the pub and that’s the first time I’ve met any of his friends. I’ve met all his family which are nice.
he said his friend was in a funny mood. But he seemed ok to me. Without going into full details I wanted to do something with my boyfriend but he didn’t want to and stormed off which is very out of character.
we have done what I wanted to do before so it’s not something he doesn’t like to do.
it was all just very weird tbh .

Don’t message him. Just see what happens. If he doesn’t make contact it’s over. And if he does then I probably wouldn’t respond. He is a child.

As you're only 17 months in, I'd fuck this off. You don't want to be tied down to someone who thinks this is acceptable.

Did you want to do some drugs?

Thank you I’m going to leave messaging him. Because like you’ve all said he’s acting like a child.
but I do agree that after this amount of time together it’s not how to deal with things but after those strong words saying it’s over. I don’t feel it’s my place to ask again ?

Fair enough, if you think OP should wasting time on this ‘man’. In my experience friends have wasted countless time and energy trying to talk these sorts, only to have it thrown back in their face.

What would you suggest? I’m all for communication, but at the very least this man should become ancient history don’t you think?!

It’s hard and hurtful but I would stop contacting him.

Pegging?

So I took my dads advice to message him simply asking him how he and his boys are.
to see if I got a response.
because my dad said it was doing my head in.
i did get a response, which was a text as though nothing was up and nothing happened.
so I’m now left thinking wtf. I’ve asked him to call me later if he wants.
god knows what I’m going to say because I just don’t feel right about this and him it’s making me feel insecure? Any advice

I think your dad believed that you'd get a reasonable response. He advised you with the best intentions, but it's backfired. You're no further forward.

I'd take your mum's advice (not to mention everyone on this thread) and block him.

Try to get him out of your mind. He's playing games. I'm sorry it's ended like this. You're clearly very hurt.

Your dad’s advice was poor!

Awful way to treat you and your visiting family. Being moody,Snarling and saying what he did. Not good he’s not introduced you to friends in 17 months.

Don’t understand why, even when you’re wishing to continue to date him (many wouldn’t), you’re chasing him and allowing this to be brushed under the carpet.

Yes I get what your saying and I don’t want it too be brushed under the carpet. I feel different about him now unsure.
we did sort out what happened at the weekend. We talked it through .
It was the fact he never made contact with me at all yesterday that bothered me and changed his profile photo of us.
i don’t want that brushed under the carpet.
so we need to talk again.
thank you for your advice I do agree with you