Hi everyone,
been with my partner for nearly 2 years and I am feeling like we’ve reached the end of the road. He lives an hour away and until now we’ve made it work but there’s been a constant theme of not having much time together.
we both have children from previous relationships and he is main carer for his although has some weekends free as he also works weekends. This is the trouble: we have one day a week together but can go a couple of weeks apart. We barely have time as a couple and there are no plans to move in together as all the children are settled. Me moving would take mine away from their father which I’m not willing to do.
it’s not just the lack of time. He can be stubborn and defensive. Over Christmas we have had issues and there seems to be a lot of “tit for tat” comments. If I raise an issue I get “yeah but you do that too”. He literally doesn’t listen to me and will walk out of the room when I’m mid sentence: he has also shown little interest in my life before him. I’m late 30’s and was with previous partner a long time and if I mention a previous holiday or something, the conversation shuts down. Thing is, I’ve had a nice life and interesting trips. If I can’t share that then what’s the point??
I’m fearful of ending it, he is overall a nice person, treats me well aside from these issues but am I being picky?? Will I just end up on my own in my 40’s. I feel like I’m lonely even though I’m in a relationship. My kids get along with him although over Christmas he did upset my 9 year old as we had argued prior to her coming home from her dads and he basically ignored her for the two hours she was with us! She noticed and it was so awkward: I had a good chat with her the following day:
I haven’t spoken to friends as I worry that if I say it out loud then it really is over.
I’m nor sure what I’m asking. Just some opinions I guess.