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Daughter trying to move on from her ex ...

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Bumpy2025 · 07/02/2025 04:44

... but he's now dating another girl that she works with and he keeps turning up to pick this girl up, have a drink etc. All of which is of course allowed (free world and all that) but I feel so angry at his insensitivity towards my daughter. My D (20) was totally heart broken when it ended (they were each others first love, he broke it off, they remained friends initially and nearly got back together then his head was turned by this other girl a couple of months ago and he broke my D's heart again ... familiar story ...) but she has been really strong, said they couldn't be friends, that he couldn't have his cake and eat it, she wasn't going to wait on the sidelines for him to change his mind again (he begged her to consider remaining friends). Her wall has gone up as far as he is concerned and she is trying really hard to move on but I know it hurts to see him come into their work to see his current GF. I just want to vent really. My D has struggled with her MH in the past and has had a few knock backs in life but has grown really strong this last year. I'm so proud of her. I have suggested she gets another job (she is student and this is a P/T bar job although she has just been promoted and spends way more time there than at uni) but she loves her job and doesn't see why she should have to leave which is fair enough. I get it. I just have to be supportive and be there for her, which is my no. 1 priority, but pisses the mama bear in me off and I needed to rant. Thank you for listening x

OP posts:
category12 · 07/02/2025 05:11

Hopefully she'll see the sense of changing jobs if it doesn't get easier.

It's hard watching her go through it, I'm sure.

frozendaisy · 07/02/2025 06:41

Sounds like your daughter is on the up and up
Promoted in a part time job, studying, she's still very young hasn't really started her adult adult life yet

She can now make new friendships, flirt with other ambitious young men, have some fun basically not tied to a flakey guy just because he was her first love

In 12 months time she will winder what she saw in him

She shouldn't leave her job no way

She needs to start thinking of him as just another visitor to her workplace and go off and find her, I am guessing, fulfilled, happy adult life without him in it.

Sounds like he has had enough of her tears.

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